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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 7, 2010
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I could write a book about
the experiences with my DIL. First, my son went off to college
on a full basketball scholarship. He had a bright and promising
future in computer science. Less than 6 months after he left for
school, I received a phone call from his basketball coach, saying
that was headed to the emergency room. My son had threatened to
jump off the bridge in the harbor because he found out that the
girl he was seeing was pregnant. This was not exactly the way I
had pictured being told that I was going to be a grandma. Due to
the travel time, we were at a distinct disadvantage as far as being
there for our son, or the girl, whom my son had never mentioned.
All we knew was that an unknown young woman was carrying his unborn
child. Two weeks passed before they made the drive back to our
home to tell us the entire saga, which included an introduction
to the young lady. I cried for two months. Then, I tried to accept
what my son and this young lady had done. To be sure, she was no
beauty queen. Yet, she acted as if we should bow down to her every
whim. At first, it annoyed me. Yet, the prospect of being a first
time grandma was overwhelming, and my DH and I gave in to every
request. Our GD was born in 2000. Since then, they have married.
We were not included in the wedding plans, but we were asked to
pay a large amount of money for the wedding. We got an invitation,
like any other invited guest, with no mention. DIL's father announced
that there was an open bar at the wedding, and stuck us with the
bill. This, after he took credit for the bar. The wedding had
250 guests, and less than 20 people attended from our side. The
relationship with my DIL went sour after she started kiting checks
and expected us to bail her out. She threatened us with never seeing
our GD again, unless we paid the $6,000 to keep her out of jail.
That was just the beginning. A flat screen TV, the stand it went
on, an air conditioner, a top of the line vacuum, living room furniture,
a television for the GD, VCRs and surround sound systems were just
a few of her demands. Either we bought the "gift" she
wanted, or there would be no more visits. The final straw came
on Christmas morning when our GD was three. My son told us the
request this year was a designer purse. We drove two hours to a
store to get the exact bag she wanted. They drove down to visit,
arriving Christmas Eve at six pm. DIL didn't want to miss Christmas
with her family, so we were told that they would be leaving at sunrise
the next morning. Our family tradition was to open gifts on Christmas
morning, but that wouldn't do. When morning came, they did not
wake until 11. She went on another tirade. She threw the gifts
out the front door into a snowbank, cursed a blue streak, threw
luggage, unpacked clothing, and threw the handbag at my son's head.
I told her that if she couldn't act like a decent human being, they
did not need to come back. Since then, we have offered to take
them along on family vacations in order to see the child. Otherwise,
we are not allowed to visit, and they will not come back here.
In nine years, I have seen my DIL, GD and DS less than 20 times.
Eighteen of those times we have footed the bill for expensive meals
out. DIL has demanded "gifts" to put up with us (a direct
quote from my GD), and has uttered remarks like, "F--- Off,"
if she did not like the gifts we brought. This year, she demanded
a pedestal dryer and a game for the game system that we bought them.
Mind you, I lost my job in 2001, when our factory jobs went overseas.
DH is retired. I went back to get my college degree, and have heavy
loans. I told them that we had already bought our GD a notebook
for Christmas, and that was all we could afford. The gift wasn't
good enough. She said that we will never see the child again.
When I read these other stories, I think to myself that the rest
of you should realize that there are serious, heartbreaking stories
out there. MILs who offer to clean your house, want to control
your life by sewing on a button for their grandchild, or some of
the other stories? I would like to see the rebuttals from the MILs
to see a fair site.
Signed - Two Sides To
Every Story
( responses to this story )
( here is my story )
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It's so amazing to see
how MILs around the world have the same mean characteristics. My
MIL is a very selfish and dominating woman. She wants all the things
to be her way. She cannot respect anyone but herself. She has
taught her sons to always ridicule others. Whenever we tell her
any good news, like promotions, etc., she will top it with all the
miseries she is living. My younger BIL was an addict, who turned
into schizophrenic because of the addiction. My MIL will blame
the people who introduced him to grass, but not him for taking it.
She has 3 SILs and 2 BILs. She does not get along with any one
of them. For the 13 years of my marriage, not a single IL has visited
her or invited her. This tells a lot about her nature. She has
abused me because of my bad family background, and says that I am
so foolish. I will not react to anything. I just turn a deaf ear.
I wish I could retaliate, but it's not worth it. Also, every morning
when I wake up, I only think about all the troubles she has bestowed
upon me. I want to stop this habit. I have lots to do in my life.
I have enrolled in on-line MBA courses, but I am not able to complete
them because I am awake and thinking about the past. I know that
the solution is to focus on my goals, to work hard, and concentrate
on the right things. But, sometimes I just can't focus. My MIL
is NOT so important, and I shouldn't spend so much time thinking
about her. I have lots of good things in life to do. Why should
I waste my energy and time on her?
Signed - I Wish I Could
Retaliate
( responses to this story )
( here is my story )
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