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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 12, 2010
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Haven't spoken to my MIL
of 23 years since May of 2009. Long story, but the gist of it is
that I found out she'd been badmouthing me, maligning my character,
etc., to the family and anyone else whom she could corner and spew
her BS to. She's been holding a huge grudge against me ever since
DH and I made the decision not to let our 7 year old DD visit her
alone, out of state, etc., for a very good reason. Anyway, I've
been on her sh!t list ever since then, but I try to take the high
road and ignore all her insults and sniping whenever I see or talk
to her. Anyway, I've heard only snippets of what was going on behind
my back for the past few years, but kept quiet in order to keep
the peace in the family. However, it was finally the last straw
for me when I discovered all the truly ugly, nasty things she'd
been saying about me, and finally decided that it was time to break
the ties. She'd had many chances to clean up her act in the past,
but she didn't, so I was done. You'd THINK the story would end
there, but NOOOOOOOOO. I am not even being allowed to bow out gracefully
from this nasty woman's life now. Since I won't speak to her or
email with her anymore, she has taken to working on my FIL to get
me to "come back into the family". This has manifested
in almost weekly emails from him, asking me to, "Forgive and
forget," to, "Move on," to, "Remember that life
is short," etc., etc. He knows how strongly I feel about her
and that I want nothing more to do with her, but he won't leave
it alone. I'm sure SHE won't leave it alone and is badgering him
to get what she wants. Truthfully, I know that she couldn't care
less if I'm part of the family or not, but she has been humiliated
and exposed now, and is trying to save face by acting all upset
and hurt about the situation. The fact that she still manages to
get in her snippy little remarks about me or the situation, whenever
she has contact with my DD, proves her insincerity. So, I am firm
in my decision to remain incommunicado. Anyway, I've now received
another email from my FIL on this subject, only this time he pulled
out the big guns. He actually suggested that I am in need of some
"professional" help, and should consider counseling to
help resolve the situation!! Not only was I hugely insulted, but
the irony of the suggestion was just too mind numbing. After all,
it's my MIL who couldn't accept NO for an answer 7 years ago. And,
it's she who's been harboring a nasty grudge ever since. She's
the one who made the conscious choice to vilify me, over and over,
all these past years. It's to the point of causing this break in
the family!!!!! HELLOOOOOO!!!!????? If ANYONE needs professional
help, it would be HER!!!! Then, as if that wasn't offensive enough,
my FIL went on to comment that my parents (both in their late 80s)
will be passing one day soon, and don't I just know that my MIL
will want to be there to comfort and support me. I should really
keep that in mind and end this "feud" before that happens!!!!
When I finally picked my jaw up off the floor, I just sat and stared
at his email in utter shock. This is normally not a man who would
tread on such personal territory, let alone hold it up to use against
me to manipulate a situation. So, guess who must've put him up
to such a lowlife move???????? I am still trying to recover from
how far this woman is willing to go to get what she wants, and I
think I have really underestimated her. I do think it is killing
her that she is finally being held accountable for something, and
realizing that there ARE consequences when you choose to hurt other
people. It's almost amusing to watch her reaction play out, if
I didn't still have to be the focus of her insanity!! I don't know
if I'm even going to dignify this last email with a response, but
I'd certainly welcome any ideas about what I should say, if I do
reply!!!
Signed - Trying To Escape
With Dignity And Grace, But - - -
( responses to this story )
( here is my story )
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I've been married for
over a year now. We are an interracial couple, and MIL is making
my life he!!. I have never even met her. But, over the phone she
demands that when I have children, we send them to her country to
live with her for a few months of the year. "It will be like
a boarding school for them, so they do not turn out like (people
of my race)!" I think I should not have children with DH.
I would rather get divorced and go to a sperm bank. At least I
would not have to kiss my children good-bye. I would not have to
fight for them. Every two weeks or so we speak to her. And, every
two weeks she repeats herself. She always says that she is going
to take the kids. All this after we told her that we won't have
children for 5 years. I know that she will win in the end. So,
I'd better not give her that chance.
Signed - Upset Because
It's Ended Right After It Started, Without Even A Chance?
( responses to this story )
( here is my story )
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