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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 23, 2010
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I have been with my BF
for 7 years. We bought a house together 5 years ago, and have a
2 year old daughter (MOO = mother of origin). My problem is his
family. Apart from one sister (who is cool), the other sister and
his mother just do my head in. Prior to the birth of DD, they never
visited or included us in family stuff. That was fine with me.
Now we are suddenly expected to go to things. They often make arrangements
and then change things at the last moment. Basically, they generally
display poor manners. When I am in the company of either of them,
I feel judged, ignored and then dismissed. They have never really
made much of an effort to get to know me. As a result, I have always
had an internal dialog of them as idiots. What the he!! do they
know anyway? Neither of them has any awareness. I am constantly
being undermined about the way I am raising DD. They interfere
with the most fundamental things, from how long I breast-fed DD
(at four months old my MIL told me that I should think about weaning
her, because babies don't need to be breast-fed once they start
solids) to telling me not to have DD sleep with us or she will die
of cot death (that peril of wisdom was sprouted when DD was only
six weeks old), to giving the child sweets when she was in the middle
of a 2 year old melt down. Meanwhile, SIL said, while holding my
perfect 7 day old baby, that it was wrong to have children, if you
are not married. She is a pioneer (I don't hold that against her,
I rarely drink myself these days), but the whole looking down her
nose at people who do partake is a bit much for me. At a recent
family wedding, MIL referred to me as my BF's lady friend. I was
highly insulted by that, but I let it slide. If DD spends time
with either of them, she comes back wild. When I said my piece
on this, I was told that GMs and Aunts are there to make the child
happy. That is their job. So, I attempted to set ground rules.
It failed, and I have been forced to limit the contact to just a
few hours once a fortnight. SIL is getting married in August.
When she asked BF if he would give her away, she said, "You
don't really want to give me away, do you?" Then, she acted
all upset, and set her mother on him because he had said, "NO."
I was so furious that the moment chosen to discuss this was in company
at a social gathering. We agreed to let DD be a flower girl. But,
instead of doing what is traditional (parents get the dress), SIL
wants to do it herself. I have explained that DD is most willful,
and at her young age often refuses to wear things. I said that
I would like to go shopping for the dress, and bring DD so that,
on the day, there is no drama trying to get her dressed. I also
said that I wanted her to wear a pair of (brand name) shoes, which
I will get for her a week before the wedding. This way I can get
her feet measured and ensure that she is comfortable. All has been
totally disregarded! What do I know? It is causing me so much
stress worrying about it that I just want to pull her from the wedding
and not go. On top of that, I found out that BF and DD will be
sitting on the top table. I really don't want to go at all myself.
I don't deal with conflict very well. But, normally I don't let
things like this affect me, and I will say my piece. Oh, and BF
doesn't know why I let them affect me so much. He thinks they are
unaware idiots or thick as sh!t. My main fear, at the moment, is
that I am so close to the end of my patience that I will have a
no holds barred rant and tell them exactly what I think of them.
It won't be pretty. You see, I have an excellent memory! Anyone
have . . .
Signed - Any Ideas How
I Can Deal With These People?
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Worst gift: One Christmas,
I was given a pair of candlesticks that had already been burnt,
and a crumpled up $10 bill in a white envelope. Nothing says love
like used candles from a yard sale. It would not have been too
bad, but everyone else got something better.
Signed - Burnt Offerings
Don't Cut It Here
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