Hello all.  This web-site is really neat.  I think I have a story to share.  Only, it's not my mother-in-law I have a problem with, it's my own mother.  I feel so sorry for my husband because he has the mil from hell (my mother).  Anyway, my husband is an auto mechanic, and by the way is very good at what he does.  I'm sure you can imagine what his hands and clothes look like.  And he does not work in an air conditioned building, so in the summer it's really miserable.  So, what I'm getting at is this: my mother is a real witch.  She complains that he is dirty, and doesn't know how to take care of himself.  But who is the first person she calls EVERY TIME her car breaks down?  You got it, her son-in-law.  She constantly tells me I don't have to worry about him cheating on me because no one else would want someone as dirty and sweaty as he is.  When I was in the hospital delivering our first child, she had the audacity to tell me that she hoped I died, during birth, and if I didn't, she hoped that my daughter put me through hell.  Then, when my second child was born, she swore up and down that my husband was not his father!  And, god forbid, when I had my third child, she about stroked.  She kept acting like she had to support the child.  She has not given us one thing, mainly because I would not take it.  I don't want anything from her.  She wants everyone to believe that she supports my kids, but everyone knows that I am a good mother and that my husband supports his children and myself.  I think that if we can survive my mother we can survive anything.  And so far we have.  I have pretty much written her off.  Occasionally, she comes around, but I think she has finally gotten the picture to stay away.  Think about this, she has three daughters, and not one of them wants to have anything to do with her.  She also has five sisters that won't have anything to do with her.  It's really sad that she has to be such a lonely person, but she brings it all on herself.

I went to Japan when I was a teenager to study Judo.  I met a girl who worked in a Bank, and we dated and I finally proposed.  She never mentioned her family, so I never asked.  We got married on a Saturday in May.  The next day, we were eating dinner at our apartment when, unannounced, her mother walked in.  She did not speak.  She looked at her daughter, looked at me, turned around, and we never saw or spoke to her again.  32 years later she died.  We were not allowed to come to the funeral.  End of story.

The only way I got rid of my manipulating mother in law was when she died.  My husband and I married in our 40's, remarriage for both.  I thought it was one of the nicest families in town.  No way to really know what they are until you marry into them.  Should have known, since he lived in the house next door to her.  She completely controlled his life by doing everything for him, while his ex wife was mentally ill.  I think the mother in law caused the mental illness.  The teenage daughter we inherited from the first marriage was a spoiled brat and out of control, caused by the mother in law giving her everything.  My husband overcame alcoholism and other problems before marrying me, and he stayed on the right path thanks to me, as I would not put up with it.  But, his mother resented me greatly because I gave him an ultimatum, them or me.  I kicked all the relatives out, and would not let them come to my house, mother in law, spoiled kid, sister, ex wife who was harassing us (had her arrested).  We were living in my house, not his, so I could do that.  I came to realize that his drinking had been encouraged by his mother and sister, because it gave them control.  He was at fault, as he let them do this, and never told them off, and let me fight the battles.  The resulting stress only came to an end after a dozen years when the old bat died and my husband was transferred out of town.  The idea that we owe relatives anything in time or loyalty when they are no good for us is sick, as that is a major cause of mental illness and dysfunctional families.  It is also sick that a man's blood family should come before his spouse.  Such men have never grown up, and are cowards using their wife as a shield.  The only safe way to tell if you are not marrying into such a family is if his mother is dead.  Watch out though, as a sister or daughter may have stepped into the role.  An interesting ending - One day when I could stand it no more, I walked outside and just shouted to myself, I wish she were dead, if only she would die!  I had never been in such despair.  A little while later his sister called to say that they found the mother dead, and she had died at just about the time that I had shouted in despair.  Too bad I couldn't patent that curse and sell it. 

Take hope, all those with bad in laws!  My first husband's mother was a bit cool towards me, thanks to a nasty ex wife.  The rest of his family were quite sweet to me.  One SIL wasn't, but she didn't like anyone anyhow!  Shortly into the marriage, my husband decided he didn't need to work, became an alcoholic, and couldn't keep his pants zipped.  His kids were from hell, and I was lost, having no family of my own.  My MIL came to visit, and when she saw what a loser her son was, turned to me and said, "I won't allow you to live like this, he's a horrible man!"  When the inevitable occurred, divorce, his entire family, although scattered around the country, 
came to my side and asked me to come live with them to recover.  My MIL, after a time, wanted to know, "When are you going to marry a nice guy and give me some grandbabies?"  She wept when she said that, although she had numerous grand kids!  When I re-married and had children, presents were sent, and good wishes as well!  I still keep in close touch with my ex-in-laws, and are dear friends.  My ex husband?  No one knows where he is, and no one cares!  My present in-laws???  I wouldn't trade them for the world!  There ARE good people out there!

When my husband and I had started building a house, doing much of the labor and all of the planning ourselves, I found myself pregnant with our third child.  FIL had a lot of building experience, was retired, so traveled 600 miles with MIL in motor home to come help.  They would stay 2-3 weeks, leave, come back.  I was working full time, would arrive to the building site exhausted, be given a list of who to call and what was needed for next day, and go home where MIL was waiting for me to prepare dinner, and then insisted I drive back to the site to deliver, sit down, and eat a hot meal with FIL and husband.  I wasn't strong enough to stand up to her.  When it came time for baby's birth, they wanted to come "help with the baby."  I had refused her before at others' births, and I wrote a very diplomatic letter stating that husband was going to take some time off from work to help with baby, that older 2 children (7 and 10, who also were quite surprised at having a new sibling) needed time to adjust to the new family member, and that it would be best if they waited until the Easter holiday and baby's christening 6 weeks later.  They showed up anyway, 2 weeks before due date.  I was so drained emotionally and physically that my M.D. even told my husband that if he didn't tell MIL to "go the hell home" he was going to have to hospitalize me for depression.  He wouldn't do it.  Fortunately, they had to return home on the due date to collect their social security checks and baby hadn't come.  When M.D. learned they were gone, he said, "Then let's have this baby" and planned to induce me (but I went into labor that night).  Husband's refusal to protect me and support me at such a dismal time contributed to a still present clinical depression, and I left him, and the house I had come to hate, 3 years ago (he got the house...ILs said if I tried to get it, they would put a builder's lien on it for the work they did.  They couldn't, but one has to pick one's battles, and it wasn't worth it to me.)

When my husband I were engaged to be married we were writing a list of people to send invitations to, and my mother-in-law told us that we had to invite her friends from college because, and I quote, "It's not just YOUR wedding!"  I was then, and am still, sure that it was just OUR wedding!

My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years.  Lived together for 1 year, and have been married for 2 1/2 years.  I have hated my MIL from day one.  She is manipulative, vindictive and hateful.  All growing up, she told my husband and his brothers and sister that she wished they were never born, or she wished she could put them up for adoption.  I have actually heard her say these things to her youngest, who was 9 at the time.  She has tried to break us up by telling me my husband was cheating on me and he was sleeping around with other girls at their house, and she said she actually caught him screwing some girl in his room.  She told me he didn't love me and that he told her that he was sick of me, but didn't know how to break it off.  Of course, all the while we were actually talking about moving in together and getting married in the future.  She has called me a slut and a b*tch to my face.  Most of this time, my husband didn't say anything because he was so scared of her.  When we got married, his side of the family did nothing to help.  The only thing I heard from his mom was b*tching and moaning about the price of her daughter's bridesmaid dress (I didn't even want her in the wedding, but she got her way!).  Oh yeah, the night before we moved out she closed my husband's bank account (her name was on it because he was in the Navy, and she paid some bills for him through his checking account when he was on active duty) and stole the few thousand dollars we had saved for our first few months on our own.  What a sweetie, hugh?  Believe me, this is only the icing on the cake.  I am 6 months pregnant and she doesn't even know, and my husband doesn't want her to know!  Thanks for letting me vent.

I loved my husband for 6 years before we got married, a year back.  I have been visiting his family since before we got married.  And, I have got a very irresponsible sister in law.  She never did a thing for her husband when they were studying and staying in the same rented house (not even a cup of coffee).  But my husband paid the rent for her.  Such a lazy bump.  But when she needs help from him, she will pretend as though she is taking care of him.  Most of the time, she will lie for anything to escape from guilt.  I had noticed this before my own wedding.  My MIL used to ignore my presence.  She'd call her son for lunch (or dinner), and then he would have to call me so we could all get together for lunch.  My FIL is a selfish man who just wants his three daughters to be happy.  And he gets them whatever they want with my husband's money.  My FIL even planned to get the money my husband saved for our honeymoon, and got it at last, meaning no honeymoon for us.  They always try to get all of his salary money 'cause they are scared he will spend it on me.  Now, after we are married, they are still the same.  My MIL and FIL ignore me all the time.   And, they also think that I will take all their jewels and money from them.  I have a professional job, and am not interested in all that.  But, it hurts when they try to hide these things as though I was going to steal it.  My sister in law acts in front of my husband as if she is good to me.  But, when he is not home, she doesn't speak to me at all.  The MIL doesn't even care whether I eat, bathe, or am comfortable in their house.  Recently my FIL, aiming for the salary money, told his son that he shouldn't let his wife give her money to her own mother (my mother).  After all, I am more educated then their son.  How much would my parents would have spend?  But, he wants his son to give him money, even though he has his own family now.  My husband knows all about it, but he says he has his responsibilities to his family.  He takes care of his sister very well, even though she does bad things to me.  He asks me to ignore whatever they say, but he wants me to be good to them.  I am, but sometime I can't stand them, which makes me silent with a sad face, which they notice.  My husband is a responsible person.  He does feel for me, but he doesn't want to hurt their feelings.  Lately, we fought very very harshly.  He said that if my family is doing things like that, I will do the same things.  I think I don't want to live with him anymore.  But, I am still in the house.  Soon, my in-law family is going to move in.

Should I divorce him?  We don't have kids.  I hate to see his face anymore.  I think it is not worth living with him.  But deep in my heart I still love him. What should I do? Confused.


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RESPONSE:  Dear confused,
It is time for your husband to stand up to his family and tell them that he is a man with a wife.  And tell them that it is time for his wife and him to be alone and build their own life together.  So that, if you choose as a couple to start your own family, you will have the same privacy which his parents had before him.  When you took your wedding vows, you made a promise to each other, and not to his or your families.  Life is too short to be dictated to.  Good luck 

RESPONSE:  To Confused,
YOU NEED TO PUT ON YOUR RUNNING SHOES AND RUN LIKE YOU'VE NEVER RAN BEFORE.  DON'T LOOK BACK.

RESPONSE:  This is to "Confused":
It sounds as if you come from a different culture.  We, as Americans, do not place the same responsibility on our children that you are having to bear.  With that said, I am not sure that our advice would exactly fit your situation.  But, a basic underlying premise to your story is that you don't want to be around your husband because of the way you are treated by your in-laws.  Your husband obviously places his (old) family values ahead of his new family (you).  This will make you miserable for the rest of your life if you are second best (or third, or fourth).  The one place that you should feel good about yourself is with your spouse.  They should lift you up when you are down.  They should NEVER contribute to your feelings of worthlessness!!!  If they do, then they do not know what it means to "love, honor and cherish, 'til death do you part".
If divorce is an option, then consider it.

RESPONSE:  Dear Confused:
You paint a very grim but confusing picture.  It sounds like both you and your husband have a big problem.  You are not communicating with each other.  Both of you need to realize that you are now a family of two.  Your family needs are more important than those of your respective in-laws.  You both need to set the priorities in your family life.  I would like to hear your husband's side of this story.  In particular, I would like to know why his family is moving in with you!  You make them sound like they have money.  If they do, they have no business moving in with you.  If they have money and are moving in, your husband needs to stop this from happening.  Something very sick is going on here, or there is a major lack of understanding and communication.  Remember, there may be a way to save your marriage.  You are both going to need to truly talk to each other, maybe even see a professional counselor for assistance.  I wish you luck.

RESPONSE:  To Confused:
There's no love (except the one for your kids) in this world that's worth paying the rest of your life for.  Dump this guy, now.

btw: I'm a guy whose wife was "mentally" abused for a long time by my own parents (mainly my mother).  My wife suffered silently until she couldn't take it anymore and let me know the truth.  Upon finding out, I moved my family out of the house (which I owned) and left my parents there.

RESPONSE:  Dear Confused:
I feel sorry for you.  But take it from me, a 29 year old mother of 3 children, with a MIL from hell.  Get out now.  I love my husband with everything I am, and I know he loves me.  But, he can't stand up to his mother, so I get the abuse from her.  I don't regret my children, but if I could turn back time I would have never married him.  Now, I'm in a state of confusion.  I don't know what to do.  With 3 kids, being a housewife, do I dare to get out?  SO, please leave the man even if you love him, before you have children and it makes it harder, and your children will have to grow up in a family like that.
Whatever you do, stand up for you.  Good luck to you.

RESPONSE:  Respond to: Confused
If you don't have the will to leave, get your tubes tied!  You don't want to have those in-laws influencing your child.  Good luck.

RESPONSE:  For Confused:
Divorce is a difficult decision and the site www.divorceonline.com might be helpful.  It is a supportive environment where many people considering divorce or going through a divorce share information.  Best of luck to you with your situation.

RESPONSE:  Message to Dear "Confused"
I am an Asian woman with 2 kids and a professional career.  Please don't say divorce as it is fate that a couple can be together.  After all, you still love him.  What you need to do is to communicate with him and tell him your problems.  Solve the problems together, and help him as the problems are from his family.  As for your part, do "stand in his shoes" and feel how does he feel.  On one side is the flesh and blood, on the other is the love one.  It is not easy for him too.  Please work together and solve the problems.  At the end, you will find that it was all worth it.  Good luck!

My husband and I have only been married for 3 months.  We have lived together for nearly 2 years.  His mother was wonderful at first.  I truly liked to be around her.  Last year my husband caught his mother having an affair on his father.  My husband was outraged, and swore that he would never speak to her again.  I remained on good terms with her, even though I didn't agree with what she had done.  My MIL tried to commit suicide.  She took a handful of pills, and spent 3 days in intensive care.  Later on, we spoke to a neighborhood pharmacist, who explained that she had been in the pharmacy earlier that week, and had questioned him on the amount of pills that would have to be taken in order for the pills to harm her.  She took less than what the pharmacist told her.  But denies calling the pharmacist.

This was where all of my MIL horror stories begin.  She questions everything that I do.  When my husband is not around, she will say such mean things.  But when my husband is around, she acts normal.  If you call normal running to meet his every whimper.  I do not blame my husband, but at times it makes me sick.  He just does not see the mean things that she does.  I was pregnant when we were married.  We did not get married because I was pregnant.  We were engaged in June, and set our wedding date in June.  I found out that I was pregnant in October.  I then had a miscarriage in December.  For Christmas, his family gets in a circle to open Christmas gifts, one person at a time.  When I went to open her present, she gave me maternity clothes and made the comment, "Well, you did gain some weight, you should be able to wear them"

The day that I went to have the DNC completed, she called & asked for my husband.  I asked her to hold on, & she said, "Well, I just wanted to check on him to see how he is doing. Oh yeah, by the way, when they took the baby out did they tell you if it was a boy or a girl?"

Sick!!!!!

Since then, his uncle was having a house warming party, and she called to ask if we were attending.  I explained that we had plans for that day.  She replied with, "Well, I really wasn't talking about you, ya know (my husband) is my blood, & I really just wanted my blood there."

She called to ask to borrow tablecloths from our wedding (which she did not pay for ) and I could not get them due to the fact that they were stored under some heavy boxes.  She replied that her boy would get them for her, and that she would call him at work, 'cause she knew that I wouldn't tell him.

I hope that someone has some advice on this one.  I really feel as if I am losing it! 


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RESPONSE:  To "Losing It!":
Sounds like your MIL is acting from pent-up rage and resentment in her own life - a good example of which being her affair.  Getting caught at it only brought it out in the open and added a guilty anger to the mix - turning it from a slow simmer into a real boil, so to speak.  You're unfortunately at the center of the blaze, as you're now close enough (being family) and because it sounds like you caught her out in a lie (the pharmacist).   The fact that you caught her in a lie, and the resulting fact that you know her "suicide" was faked (for attention, likely) are adding to her guilt and anger.  That, and she couldn't possibly attack her darling boychik, so you're the lucky winner.

There's two paths I can see (probably more):
1) Cut her out of your life if you can, and live with that fallout.  Not ideal, for more reasons than are worth going into, but possible if all else fails.
2) What she really needs is someone to vent at, so she can understand herself better.  Whether she'll accept that at this time is up for grabs, of course, but her acceptance of it'll be somewhat dependent on the source of the suggestion.  She won't welcome the idea of a shrink, but in this New Age-ish world there's more opportunities to get the same kind of aid under different guises, and all they take is a little bit of planning.  (Anything from an old friend calling her and inviting her to lunch, to finding an "800" number to talk to someone)  And if you can ferret out the root of it all (be it she was molested as a child, or whatever) then you can better your aim.

Hmm ... the 2nd idea's a little more filled out than the 1st.  But as you said,
you truly liked her at one point.  Ask yourself if it's worth helping her to regain herself.

Hope this helps ... I could be way off-base, but it sounds right.
Take care of you.

RESPONSE:  Message to Dear "Losing it"
Your MIL is in need of attention.  What she did is trying to get attention from the people around her.  She is indeed a hopeless and helpless old lady that needs love and caring like others.  Show her your affection and care, and if she is a person with feeling, she will respond positively. If not, just leave her alone if she chooses the kind of life she wants.  Good luck!

My mil wants everybody's house to look like hers. She has been saving "crap" for years, just in case somebody would need it.  When my husband and I moved into a rental house she emptied out her storage unit into our basement. (Hers was full, along with her garage and front room.)  She promised to have a garage sale that spring.  I went back to see my family, and when I returned, the house was decorated.  She called to see how I liked it. (What was I supposed to say?)  Later, when we went to visit my family for Christmas, she came in and decorated again.  I ended up keeping all of the "accessories" that she used.  Two years later my husband and I bought a new house.  We still had a basement full of her stuff.  I told her that I was having a garage sale (the week before we moved).  We sold a lot of her stuff.  I had boxed up 4 boxes of it as well.  My mil mentioned that she and my fil would come over to help us hang pictures, shelves, and just to help us decorate.  I told her that my husband and I wanted to live in the house for a while before we put nails in the wall.

Ok, well, I'm not even sure on just how bad my MIL really is.  My husband and I have been together for seven years, three of those we have been married.  Our daughter is 18 months old, and on the day of her Christening his mother decided to take him aside and tell him what she really thought of me.  She thought right before the service would be a good time to do it.  So she proceeds to tell him that I'm not a good mother, I don't love him enough, I would leave him in heartbeat if my family told me to do so.  Very stupid woman.  I have only learnt of this now 12 months after the fact.  So, for twelve months I have been as nice as pie.  The wonderful daughter in law, always ringing to let her know how things are, making sure she gets photos of happy events.  Not any more.  If I ever wanted anyone to go to Hell it's her.  You see, she left her husband and four children 20 years ago.  Just picked up and walked out without looking back.  My husband was 13 at the time his two younger brothers became his responsibility to make sure they got off to school and had lunches.  My wonderful FIL had to work.  She even went to court and got half the house without having to pay maintenance.  I hate this woman for what she did, and I detest this woman for what she is doing now.  My husband didn't want to hurt me by telling me, but he was just being weak.  I have told him, "One more time she says anything and you don't stand up for me I WALK."  So, MILs out there, be careful for what you really want, because (not like my MIL) most of us take our kids (your precious grandkids) with us.

My mother in law did not like me from the beginning.  She ruined my wedding.  She bought her other daughter in law a long white gown to wear to my wedding, and the rest of her daughters wore white shirts.  And, her other son took my husband out and got him drunk the night before the wedding.  It did not end there.  When I had my first son, he had red hair.  It runs on my side of the family.  Well, she said, "Oh my, where did he get the red hair?"  She actually used to make fun of him when he was a toddler.  The woman starts so much trouble for me, I could write a book.  It's now been 17 years and I finally told them all to get out of my life.  But it interferes with my marriage.  I have asked my husband for a divorce, but he says no.  He says I am angry at his family, not him.  I want a divorce from his family.  They have mistreated me for 17 years.  I actually have post traumatic stress disorder because of their abuse.

When my future SIL called the priest and told him I did not want my cousin participating in the ceremony, and said that I asked her to do this, I should have RUN!  When my future MIL called me up and insisted that I apologize to her daughter for calling the priest and stating that I did want my cousin to participate in the ceremony, I should have RUN!  When my future MIL drove her car off the road on the way to the rehearsal dinner, and emerged (miraculously) without a scratch - then pushed - no - shoved me away when I tried to hug her upon her arrival at our dinner - then, as she sat and cried miserably with her daughter throughout the dinner - then insisted that her son leave and spend the night with them instead of attending the post-dinner party which was scheduled, (and he did) - I should have RUN!  But my loving, supportive family assured me that she was having pre-wedding jitters, and that it probably was not her normal behavior.  So I went through with it; even after she went to the ceremony in a white gown (I have pictures)!  This marked the beginning of what I can only describe as the downward spiral of my relationship with my in-laws.  Our first mistake was to spend our first Christmas with them.  I was very tense, and thus my husband and I had our first argument.  My in-laws jumped right in and told me I was at fault, and that I should show my husband more respect.  Then, they convinced my husband to stay with them while I was to stay at my grandmother's.  I stayed there for two days, trying to reach my husband on the phone, but they refused to let me speak to him.  Finally, I did speak to him, and we were able to work things out (in private).  For our first anniversary, they sent us toilet paper.  When we told them that we were expecting, the first words out of my MIL's mouth were, "Do you want me to tell anyone in case you lose it?"

My husband and I dated for many years and got married young.  We went through a lot of nasty, backhanded comments from my mil & my sil about my weight, the way I raised my children, things I purchased, anything & everything.  Whenever I confronted them, they always told me that I was being overly sensitive.  I have a long fuse and let a lot go trying to be a good person.  I attended family functions where they would ignore me and give me the cold shoulder and pretend I wasn't there, all the while talking to my kids & talking to my husband.  Many times they really don't treat my husband well either.  I told them off twice, and my husband & I pulled away from them.  After reading many books about dysfunctional families, "Toxic People" and "Healing Your Inner Child", and a book on "Criticism" (which were great by the way), I have come to the conclusion that the only way to free myself is by disconnecting from them.  They respond by making comments to my children.  There is no help for them.  So, I keep to myself and stay away.  Since I've pulled away from the negative people in my life, a lot of good things have happened to me.  I used to have this vision of myself swimming in the ocean.  Above, the sky was beautiful and clear.  Below, the water was dark & murky.  There were two sea beasts trying to pull me under.  All the positive people in my life were in a boat above the water, handing me a life preserver.  So, I'm taking their life preserver and leaving the negative people behind.  I really don't care about them.  I care about me !!!!  Good Luck to all of you - Grab the life preserver and get out of the water!!!  You don't need them - life is too short!!!

I have been married for 6 years.  He is a wonderful man until he is around his parents.  Then, he forgets how to be a man and husband, and becomes their baby.  It makes me so sick.  This has been going on for 5 years.  His parents sometimes treat me as ignorant, and never make me part of any decision - not even if they have to ask where the toilet paper is.  My husband never said anything to hurt his parents.  When I complain to him, he says, "Oh! there were joking."  When we married, they told him not to buy anything for our house, because they would have everything for us when we were ready to move.  When it was time for us to move, they rented a truck for us and filled it with all the Junk from their attic.  Although I was upset about this, I said thanks.  Some stuff will be very hard to use, and other stuff was just trash.  Years passed, and the holidays came and they wanted to spend it with us in our house.  So, my MIL arrives with a turkey, salt, pepper, biscuits, pumpkin pie - everything she knows I have.  But she brought her own stuff anyway.  Then she set my kitchen up her way, ready to cook.  And every time I offered my help she said, "Oh!  No.  Everything is under control."  At the end of the day, she complained about how tired she was, and my PIL made ugly comments, "Oh! We hope next time you have someone to help you."  Of course!  But, I said nothing.  But she wouldn't tell to anyone I offered to help her.

One time, my husband and I were playing a boxing game.  Everyone around us was laughing and enjoying watching us, when suddenly she got in the middle of us to interfere with what we were doing, and started her own boxing fight with him.  I stepped out to look at everyone, looking at her with a weird look.  Well, I was just asking myself why she acts like this?

The worst is that, in front of my husband, she is always giving me compliments and such friendly looks.  When he is not around, they hardly want to speak with me.  She pretends to be reading a book to ignore me.  As soon my husband walks in she leaves the book and starts her act.  It is, in part, funny to watch.  I don't know what to do anymore.

When I said in the beginning that we have been married for 6 years, maybe you were wondering if we have any kids.  Yes, we have a beautiful 4 month old.  And I want the relationship with my in laws to get better, not for my sake anymore, but for my little one.  I want him to grow in an understanding and loving environment.  So I have to eat my frustration when I'm with them.  I blame my husband for the relationship I have with his parents.  I think he does not make any effort to help me to have my place in his life, and make his parents respect me as his wife.

If anyone would like to give me good advice, please write.  Thanks 


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RESPONSE: To: Eating Frustration..
Join the Message Board & chat with some of us!  We've all experienced some form or another of what you describe.