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Mother-In-Law Stories
Archives 6/24/00
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My mother-in-law is a very
immature, controlling person. She sells property and personal
items (for more then they are worth) to her adult children, and expects
to still have control over what she sells. She sold my husband
property with an old farm house, which we tore down and built a brand
new house in its place. She tried to tell us what she thought
would be best in and around it, and expected us to obey her.
My husband tried to ignore her, but she kept nagging us. My
husband and I finally told her that we refuse to put up with her crap,
so she should mind her own business and stop being such a control
freak. She and her daughters, who are deathly afraid of her
and do everything she says, were very put off by what we said.
They said I am the evil one who brainwashed her son. My mother-in-law
and my sisters-in-law will no longer have anything to do with me.
Telling her off was the best thing I could have ever done. There
is now peace (and quiet) in my family!
6/16
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Okay, I admit. I'm
new to this "MIL" thing. My husband and I just got married in
October. Yes, we took a number of "been there, done that's"
advice, and lived together for a year and a half before actually "tying
the knot". Which means, I did have a small taste of having
a MIL around. But, I just thought that, since I took her "baby"
(youngest of 4 boys) off the farm, she was simply temporarily p'd
off at me, and that she didn't agree with us "living in sin."
But, when BIL #3 had a baby with the 5 year live-in girlfriend last
year and she was fine with it, I dropped that belief. Then,
when my hubby proposed to me, and we went home and showed the MIL
the ring, I thought she'd be happy and stop introducing me as his
"friend" to everyone in his family. HA! At first, she
offered to help with a few really small things with the wedding.
And, I was truly touched, because, as many of you know, weddings are
a lot of work, and every little bit of help is a blessing. That
went well. She made the cake, and it was beautiful! Even
though they knew what time the wedding was, and they weren't there
to walk my husband down the aisle because they were busy "setting
up the cake" at the reception hall. Maybe I'm strange, but I
would let some flour and sugar wait before I'd let my son wait on
his wedding day. But I still gave the benefit of the doubt.
It happens, right? Nobody has perfect timing. So, the
next day, we met at the reception hall to open gifts with our family
and close friends. Everything was going great, and we opened
her gift and I loved it. It was a photo album with all of the
newspaper clippings and pictures while my husband was growing up.
I quit opening gifts so I could look through it a bit. There
was a really neat section of pictures of his junior and high school
friends, and all of the sudden there it was . . . a picture of his
ex-girlfriend, in our wedding gift. I politely closed the book,
said thanks for the unique gift, and grabbed a beer from the keg from
the night before.
6/16
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I'm so glad that I found
this site. For a while I thought I was alone in my torment.
I have so many stories I just don't know where to begin. When
I was pregnant with my second baby I was put on bed rest because he
tried to come early. One night while my husband was at work
I began to have more contractions, so my MIL offered to drive me to
the hospital. It was at least a thirty minute drive, and the
entire time all she could do was to say that she was really tired
of this, and if I would just stop worrying I would stop having contractions
all the time. On top of that, the rest of time I had to hear
about how she wasn't dressed for going out (she had been helping out
with the housework, since I could not do it) and I was never again
to let her leave without having time to freshen up. You would
think she would have been more concerned with the premature birth
of her grandchild, but all she could think about was herself.
Once the baby arrived, she cared for my 16-month old while my husband
and I were at the hospital. When we got home, my angel had turned
into a heathen! She let him run wild, spitting food out at the
table, which he never did before, and she would sit there encouraging
him to do so! When we brought the subject up for discussion
all she would say is that, "We could sort it out later." Well,
it's a year later and we are still dealing with discipline problems
which arose during this period. Finally, being in a lot of pain
from my c-section, I decided to try and do whatever it took to keep
the peace, since I needed someone to help me with my first child.
Every night after my husband went to work she would tell me I was
disrespecting her, treating her like she was dirt, telling me what
a terrible person I was, and she didn't understand why anyone liked
me. This, coming from a woman who has alienated ALL her family
and friends! Well, this ruined what should have been a very
special time for us.
6/16
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I really need some advice.
My husband and I would have a perfect marriage if it was not for his
family. The most concise way of describing them is "trailer-park
trash". Amazingly, my husband agrees. He has two half-brothers
and a mother. The mother lives in a dilapidated house with an
older guy (supposedly an old friend of the family) and the able-bodied
half-brother (in his mid twenties) who refuses to work. None
of them contribute to the expenses of the household. My husband
is the only person out of this large clan (MIL had 8 siblings) who
went to college and made something of his life. My problems
started when I started attending a Masters program at a nearby University,
and my husband suggested we live there (with MIL) for a month before
we moved into an apartment (BIG MISTAKE!). In this month I experienced
the following: (1) slept next to dog shit, (2) witnessed
a mother (my MIL) take the last dime her poor son had (my husband)
to pay her bills, (3) the HBIL screw over his own brother (my
husband) for a loan (for a few hundred dollars - which we needed really
badly at the time) and insult the hell out of his wife (me) when she
dared call him irresponsible, and (4) lived in a virtual pigsty, with
one bathroom that only my husband cleaned. To say the least,
I was deeply affected by this experience, especially because my husband
and his mother stood by silently while the HBIL insulted me and told
me that I was not welcome in the MIL's house. The worst came
afterward when the HBIL was sulking and my husband tried to make every
effort to have a conversation with him (basically sucking up to him
after he just insulted his wife (me)). I don't have to say that
this really hurt. I have had many conversations with my husband
about this since, and his explanation is that he did not know how
to react at the time. Since then, we moved far away, and after
I finally hung up on the HBIL when he called one too many times pretending
that nothing happened, my husband told him that he was wrong, and
until he apologized to me he could forget about a relationship. He
refused.
6/15
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Trailer-Park
Trash" in your response.
RESPONSE: RE: Trailer park trash.
I have too much to say to you about this! Join the message board & let it
all out there! We'll make you feel better, I promise :-)
6/16
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I decided to write because
I am surprised, and in a way horrified, about the stories that I have
read.
I guess I have been blessed, because in my family none of my grandmothers
annoyed any of my parents. Both my parents loved their respective
MILs, and my grandmothers loved them. You may be thinking that
this is what I thought because they were my grandmothers. But,
I can tell you that after my parents divorced, the relationship between
them kept on, not only due to respect, since they were the grandmother
of their children, but because there was love.
When my mother's mother had cancer, my father (living in another country)
sent money to help with the bills. The day my grandmother died,
he came right away, and took care of everything, and was here to mourn
with us. And, it is not that this was my grandmother's only
SIL, she had 4 other daughters.
When my father left the country to a better job, my mother was always
there, taking care of my father's mother. Even though my father
had 3 other siblings, my father trusted my mother to help with my
grandmother's well being, always being sure that her medical problems
were solved, or that she was being taking care of correctly.
When she died, my mother was devastated.
Now, I got married, and I have had the luck to have two wonderful
parents in law. My FIL, is a very generous guy, always interested
in how I am doing. He said that now he has a chance to enjoy
the daughter he never had. He looks forward for us (my husband
and I) moving to their state so that he can take me to museums, and
other activities that we both enjoy.
My MIL always takes my side, without bashing her son. She is
so considerate and respectful. Just to tell you that my wedding
was practically organized by her, because I wasn't living in the state
where we had the ceremony. She never made a decision without
me, and at every step she wanted to know if everything was being done
as I wanted it.
I just wanted to share this, because I don't think it is healthy to
always have such a negative idea of in-laws. Sometimes, it is
our own predisposition that makes the relationships seem impossible.
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"Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds"
6/15
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I have been reading all
the stories here, and it is really scary that there are people like
that in the world. I have been married for a little over a year,
and I love my MIL to death. She has become a 2nd mom to me.
I was really nervous about my relationship with her before I got married.
My husband and I had a few problems while dating that were really
mostly my fault, so I didn't really think she would like me.
I can't tell you how great she is. Mother and I are very close,
but my mom is into a phone persona and she is traveling a lot for
work these days, so it is so nice that I can chat w/ my MIL.
We don't' live in the same town, but we send email and talk on the
phone once a week or so. I just wanted to let all of ya'll out
there know that not all MILs are horrible, and I have been blessed
with mine.
6/15
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I have the all time worst
mother in law ever! It's not so much what she does to me or
my husband, but it's what she does to our daughters. Our oldest
daughter is her first born grandchild, and she treats her like she's
a dog. She's always calling them brats, and she never has a
nice word to say to them. Unfortunately, we live next door to
her, and when the kids are outside she refuses to even speak to them.
Both of the kids attend private school, which she thinks is downright
horrible, but yet she sent her youngest son to a private school.
My brother in law has three kids, and she's always saying how she
feels sorry for them because of how they live. My sister in
law has three kids, and believe me, she spoils the H*** out of them.
But when it comes to our kids, well, lets just say She Hates Them!
They try so hard to have a relationship with her, and they are really
hurt by the way she treats them. Christmas time is the worst.
She absolutely refuses to shop for our two kids. So, year after
year she gives me the money to buy their gifts. Then, when it
comes time to open the presents, she says things like, "Well what
did I get you this time?" I have talked to my husband about
this, time & time again, and he will not say anything to her.
I am ready to confront her, and I know that all hell will break loose,
but what do I have to lose? I am tired of seeing my 14 year
old and my 8 year old cry for some attention from this wicked B****!!
It's a sad thing that this lady is doing, because all she cares about
is my sister in law's kids, and to hell with the rest of the grandkids.
Somebody please help me!!
6/13
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "What
Did I Get You?" in your response.
RESPONSE: What did I get you?
From a former grandchild that might as well have been dead ... CONFRONT
HER & STICK UP FOR YOUR KIDS. I tried & tried.
She didn't care about me or my younger sister. It still bothers
me to this day. I just wish my dad had defended me. Instead,
he dances on eggshells around her & has some misguided illusion
that she deserves my respect now that I'm an adult. To me, she
is dead & she always was. End of story. Bottom line
for your situation: Your kids will resent you for not taking their
side. No matter what you think you're accomplishing by playing
nice. Your kids see it as an "us versus them" situation
& they are winning. You are teaching them that their feelings
aren't as important as MILs or their cousins. Talk about a self
esteem problem. Confront the b*tch. Of course, I'm biased.
6/14
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I'd like to say that I
have tremendous sympathy for others who have been nagged to have a
baby by their MIL. I didn't ovulate for the first few years
of our marriage, but my MIL was so awful, endlessly nagging me to
have a baby, that my husband and I were too scared to tell her I wasn't
ovulating, for fear of what she would say. So, first she complained
to everyone that I was a selfish, unnatural career woman, not the
sort of woman my husband ought to have married at all, yada yada yada.
Then, she decided I was "barren" (her word for it) and went and told
all sorts of people, including my husband's elder brother, even though
she knew he hates my husband and me. He spread it all over town
that we were a sterile couple, sometimes blaming it on me, and sometimes
on my husband. Of course, SHE never suggested it was my husband's
problem. I was so unhappy, it is a terrible thing to be unable
to conceive, and to have others running you down because of it just
adds further pain.
After a few years I started ovulating and have been blessed with children.
My MIL was dead by the time I finally became pregnant, but my (single,
childless) BIL was furious, and harassed me with "silent phone calls"
for the first few days after I got home with the baby. It would
have been very cruel, since I had a very difficult, exhausting labor
and a big episiotomy, except, too bad for him, we had caller ID, and
moved the phone over to by the couch, where I didn't have to get up,
but could just sit and glance over at the caller ID, then leave the
answerphone to deal with it! If my husband was there, he would
just pick up the phone and press "receive fax" so the phone squealed
in my BILs ear! I guess I'm a lot luckier than many women whose
stories I have read here, because I did have the support and loyalty
of my husband.
6/13
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Where do I begin?
Unlike the "Love Story" song which many of you are singing right now,
prompted by the opening line above, my MIL is FAR from a love story.
I have been married almost 15 years now, and even though our relationship
has gotten a tad better over the last two years (because my MIL finally
went on the Prozac she has needed FOR YEARS), I still do not consider
our relationship warm or loving. I endure her for the sake of
my poor, long-suffering husband, and for my children. A highlight
of one of the "normal" visits goes as such:
My MIL and my brother-in-law came for a visit when my second son was
two weeks old. He was very sick with jaundice, and my husband
and I had to take turns for two entire weeks feeding him once every
two hours! This was exhausting for both of us, and not only
was I recovering from a C-section, but I also had to care for my older
son, who was 5 and very mischievous. After the two week marathon
feeding sessions, my MIL and my BIL flew in and made themselves right
at home. Every moment she got, she would make some comment about
how lazy I was to my husband and BIL. My BIL was also recovering
from some surgery, and I kept hearing about how sorry we all should
be for him, but not a word about how I was also recovering from surgery.
This was my second C-section (as my first child was also delivered
by C-section) and I knew I had a 6-week recovery ahead of me, 4 weeks
to go by the time she arrived. But, no, she was the doctor,
and she had never heard of such a "lengthy" recovery. She advised
my husband, within my earshot, of course, that I was just trying to
get out of doing my share of the parental duties! She is such
a witch! So, it gets a little better. One night, I am
in a pretty fair amount of pain, but what the heck, I'll clean up
the dishes (no dishwasher at the time) and let my husband visit with
his relatives. Not that he had a choice, mind you. I believe
the comment to my husband was, "Why don't you sit down, honey.
You look so tired. Let her wash the dishes for a change."
He tried to tell her, "no," but since she really is nuts,
he didn't want to set her off. So, he yielded to her, after
much protest. I said, "fine," and did all the dishes.
While I'm doing the dishes, she yells into the kitchen, "Can you get
me a glass of water while you are there?" The next morning,
my incision was bleeding, but I had a Dr.'s appt. anyway that day,
so I figured I'd just show the doctor when I got there. My husband
came with me to the appt. because I was having trouble driving.
My doctor literally yelled at my husband when he saw me!
My husband and I used to have many fights about her, especially before
and after her visits. But I have come to realize in my own personal
situation that this only causes stress between my husband and I, and
doesn't resolve anything with her. So, I have given up.
So what, that she thinks I'm lazy. I know I'm not. So
what, that she doesn't want me in the family pictures. I don't
want to be in her pictures anyway! The "so what" attitude has
helped my husband's and my relationship greatly. She's not going
to change. My husband's sense of obligation to her is not going
to change. Why fight city hall? If she gets too bad nowadays,
I simply, and gently, correct her or just walk out of the room.
I don't need to hear it at this point. But, as I said, she has
gotten much better since she went on her pills. One day, I will
tell you some more of the "old days" stories that will make your hair
curl!! Until then, thanks for listening, and thanks for having
this web page. It is good therapy, and I love reading the stories!
6/12
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I have problems with my
MIL and my SIL. Neither one of them have a nice word to say
about me. The only nice thing they say about me is, "She has
the prettiest little girl!" That isn't about me, and I KNOW
that my daughter is pretty! Recently, I found out that I'm pregnant
with our second child, and instead of saying Congratulations, they
only asked how we could afford it! How rude! As if that
is any of their business! I am a stay at home mom, and they
both work. They call me lazy behind my back because I don't
work, and say that since I do not work, my house should be cleaner
than it is. Our home may not be spotless, but with a very young
child, how can it be?? And neither of them have been to our
house in 6 months, so how would they know?? I haven't spoken
up yet, because I don't want to cause a big fight in the family, but
I am at the end of my rope!! If something doesn't change soon,
I'm afraid I might end up smacking them in their self-righteous faces,
and I REALLY don't want it get that far! How do I make them
stop without coming out looking like the witch of the situation?
I could really use some advice on this, because I DO NOT like being
double teamed!
6/11
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Double
Teamed" in your response.
RESPONSE: Re: Double-Teamed.
It's a little late to do this for Mother's Day, but maybe a birthday
will roll around, or perhaps you'll just want to write these thoughts
on a greeting card. When Mother's Day rolled around I purposely
bought my passive-aggressive MIL a card that talked about how wonderful
she is and how grateful I am that she welcomed me into her family
with open arms and heart, etc. I showed it to my husband with
complete sincerity and MAILED IT TO HER. She's been lovely since
then. I don't expect it to last - she'll probably go back to
her normal pass-agg behavior, but I showed her I can be just as pass/agg
and appear quite kind and loving to my husband. Her game, but
better. I've also seen those cards for sisters, but I wouldn't
waste my time or the price of a greeting card with my husband's spiteful,
deranged sister.
6/12
RESPONSE: In my opinion, the best way to tackle this
would be ON THE SPOT, as it happens. For example: when they
said, "how can you afford it?" You could come back
with, "I guess the same way you did." When they told
you, "your house could be cleaner," you should have said,
"Well, I guess I'll have to speak to my pretty little girl about
cleaning up," OR, "well, a lot of things have changed
in our house since your last visit 6 months ago." There
are ways to get your point across here, but I believe if it's done
while it happens, and not waiting 'til later, you may be able to stop
them dead in their tracks.
6/12
RESPONSE: Bottom Line: They are jealous!
If you want to drive them crazy with jealousy ... Go on & on &
on about how stressed you are about meeting your girlfriend for a
tennis date & that you are just sick of eating bon-bon's all day.
Then, ask them if they saw the latest Oprah. HA. They
are soo disconnected for thinking that you do nothing all day.
Just be glad that you can give your daughter the attention that she
needs & blow off their comments. Most people (more than
MIL / SIL) will never understand. Don't waste your energy trying
to educate them. Just know that what you do is important.
Keep it up!
6/12
RESPONSE: In reference to "Double Teamed"
The next time your MIL and/or SIL say anything about you not working,
maybe your comment should be - "Thanks to my husband I have a
great opportunity to stay at home with our child, and we both think
that is very important. I know there are many parents (moms/dads)
that would love to be able to stay at home with their children."
Just keep in mind that, maybe, the reason they do not have anything
nice to say about you is because they would like to have been able
to do what you are doing. My MIL is a rude, unpleasant person,
and she also talks about me and the other SIL's behind our backs.
But, I just look at her and keep thinking, "what else should I expect
from a person like her". I am very happy to be living in another
state, and even happier that she does not feel the frequent urge to
visit. One of the many reasons that my marriage has lasted 18
years and is still going. Most MIL's are pains in the bottom.
Maybe it is because they see someone else doing a better job and enjoying
life. Remember, as long as you, your husband and child/children
are happy, it is not anyone else's business what you do in your life.
Good Luck.
6/12
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I just can't understand
what is wrong with all the husbands. Don't they care about their
wives to tell their mother's to butt out of their life? I also
am going through a similar situation with my b*tchy mother-in-law
who I have grown to hate with a passion. Her son has done so
many awful things to me, I don't even want to mention it, or everyone
will think I need a shrink. And then I found out that my own
husband was making up lies about me, to get out of the things that
he has done. My question is, why would a son make up lies about
his wife, and then make everyone in his family hate me, and then not
even care about how I am treated by them? I treated my husband
really good, and then I here all these lies he says about me.
Every time I have tried to leave he will literarily stop me from leaving.
He gives me a sob story every time I try to leave, and I always end
up feeling sorry for him. I really need some help with this
one. I just don't understand how this could possibly be love.
6/9
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Is This
Love?" in your response.
RESPONSE: If I was in your shoes what I would do
is:
The next time you and your husband are visiting your MIL, I would
bring up a good example of one of his lies he has told his mother
about you right in front of both of them. Of course, you would
be sarcastic in the matter, but making your point in your own sly
way ... just like your husband has in HIS own way without you.
This way, by confronting both of them with one of his lies about you
... it may prove to your MIL not to believe all her son says, and
at the same time put a different outlook on what your husband does
say in the future. It's worth a try (only my suggestion)
6/12
RESPONSE: Re: Is this love?
No. This is not love. This is a cycle of psychological
spousal abuse. You need to break the chain. Give DH an
ultimatum. I hope you don't have children. If you do,
do not even consider it until everything is worked out. If he
can treat you that way, then he is NO HUSBAND! It's time to
leave, & I NEVER advise that! Come to the chat board &
spill your guts! There are lots of people to help.
6/12
RESPONSE: Reference "Is this Love?"
Maybe your dear MIL has taught him this way of Love. It might
me normal for her, but not for most people. You seem to be in
a verbally abusive relationship. Please seek help before it
gets worse. No one deserves that. Good Luck.
6/12
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I have been reading this
page for several weeks, commiserating because I also have a horrible
MIL. She has done everything in the world to sabotage my relationship
with my husband, ignores my direct rules on my children, and is fake
and rude to me constantly. But in reading, I have found that
I can consider myself a lucky one. My relationship with her
isn't any better, she is still a rude, self-centered, bitter woman
that resents anyone who gets in her limelight or has a relationship
with her sons. But, how I learned to deal with her has made
all the difference in the world.
I used to get so angry when she would make her rude comments to me
before her middle son and I were married. She constantly creates
lies and stories to make people in her life different than they really
are. My husband is not an emotional person at all, and I've
accepted and dealt with how he is, especially since he is the most
wonderful husband and father anyone could ask for. He works
hard for our family, he helps with the kids, the house, everything,
he constantly lets us know in his own way that he loves me and our
two beautiful children with all of his heart, he's just not an extremely
affectionate and emotional person (and, frankly, I don't want a mushy
mamma's boy anyway!). But, she tells everyone complete lies
about how he calls her all the time, "just to check how his mama's
doing," and he cries to her. Not true, but I've come to
realize the people who matter know exactly how he is.
She has ignored the few rules that I have with my children, such as
feeding my son rice cereal when he was only three weeks old and then
lied to me about it. My son was so constipated and we couldn't
figure out why until my SIL told me she saw my MIL feeding cereal
to my son. But I confronted her on it and stood my ground.
She has also, against our family's wishes, posted pictures of our
son on her e-mails to complete strangers she's met in chat rooms,
which she says is now, "her family, and they just love our son so
much." We all confronted her on that one, and hopefully she
doesn't do it anymore. While she doesn't have any respect for
me, and still talks about me behind my back, I don't let her interfere
with my life, my husband's life, and my children's life like I used
to. She is a good grandmother, and a decent person when she's
not trying to get the limelight on her. In all, I have just
decided that all the petty stuff may really bother me, but I am not
wasting my time with anger and frustration any more. Of course,
it truly helps that my husband also sees her for who and what she
is, and listens to my concerns and complaints.
But I really think that I have a great story with the next things
that have happened. When my son was five months old, we discovered
that he has a brain tumor. This was absolutely devastating to
our family, MIL included. We were leaving the hospital in an
ambulance to take my son to a children's hospital. Many people
came down to the hospital to see us off and to offer emotional support,
including my MIL and her husband, and my FIL and his girlfriend (MIL
and FIL were divorced after 26 years, in a very nasty divorce about
which MIL is still very, very bitter). My oldest BIL and his
wife were not able to be there, but we knew their hearts and love
were with us. My MIL called their home later that day to let
them know what had happened. In an outright lie, she said that
while my husband was crying, my FIL went up to him and told him to,
"stop crying", "men don't cry", and, "stop it
now!" This was absolutely untrue for three reasons: my FIL was
crying just as hard as my husband, I was sitting with my son and husband
the entire time, and my FIL would NEVER say anything like that.
The worst time of our lives, and she thinks she needs to play her
games to try to make FIL look bad. I didn't hear about this
until weeks later, and since we were going through enough emotional
strain, I chose to not confront her on this.
After that, we didn't have a lot of contact with her. And while
it is very civil (I refuse to get in a yelling match with her), I
also know that no matter what she says about caring for us, deep down
her main concern is herself and how she looks! I have many,
many other stories that I could elaborate on, but it's just too much
to list. What really matters is, although I still get angry
about the things she says and does, I don't let it affect my life,
my husband's life, and my children's lives. By letting it consume
me with anger, she would be getting the upper hand and controlling
me. I refuse to let her do that. I stand up for us when
I have to, ignore her most of the time, and live our lives as we need
to. It has made all of us a much happier family. Any and
all comments on this story are welcome!
6/9
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Hand" in your response.
RESPONSE: Re: "Upper Hand"
I truly feel for you having to deal with this horrible, contemptuous
woman. She sounds like she's so pathetically trying to make
herself sound so "together" and everyone else is not.
Please try to let her just "roll off your back". I know that
sounds hard, but feeding her fire is obviously what she wants.
6/10
RESPONSE: I totally agree with your way of thinking.
I, too have a very controlling MIL who has done too many things to
us to name. I too, have learned to ignore her and try and live
our lives without her getting under my skin. It has worked for
me. The only advantage I see you have over me is you have your
husband on your side, whereas I do NOT. He is, and always will
be, a momma's boy, even though he doesn't admit it. I have washed
my hands of my MIL, and do not even attempt talking to her (yes totally
ignoring her in her presence). So, yes, you have the best idea
that works, and would work better for me if I, too, could get my husband
to see the "works" of his mother. Well done on your
part.
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