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Mother-In-Law Stories
Archives 7/22/00
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No Good Deed Goes Unpunished
. . . my husband and I were married five weeks, our unwanted wedding
gift was the fact that my mil moved in with us for 6 1/2 months while
she and her husband's home was being built out west. She stayed in
our area to continue working, her husband was supposed to "oversee"
the project out west. He basically did nothing and had no job.
She kept whining that she did not have enough money to rent an apartment,
but my husband caught her paying his delinquent younger brother's
bills. Her bank receipt, which I found while taking out the
trash, was in the mid-six figure range.
The 6 1/2 month living arrangement was my first good deed as a new
wife. I barely spoke to the woman by the time she FINALLY moved out.
The situation nearly cost me my marriage. This woman has a remarkable
way of manipulating people with guilt. "Poor _____, she has
such a hard life." "Poor _____, she's moving out west away from
her family." I'm sick of hearing it from the other family members.
She can't stand when my husband spends money. (Our money)
He's afraid to tell his mother that we've spent money to fly to a
Midwestern state to see my sister. I'm sure that she'll lay
a guilt trip on him about why we're not coming to see her. I
suggested that my husband call her at her job out west and tell her
that he'll be out of his office next week so that she's not embarrassed
that she didn't know. (My 2nd good deed) He called her
and was told that his mother had not been employed by that company
for two weeks. It seems that she's testing him to see if he'll
chase after her. She moved, not us. Life is too short
to play games.
Think really hard before moving in with in-laws or letting them move
in with you. I'd live in a cardboard box before I'd ever move
in with my in-laws! If there's nothing you can do about the situation,
because while you're actually involved it does seem hopeless, make
as much time for yourself as possible. Go out with friends, read a
good book or go into your own room and vent to this web page. It really
got me through a tough time!
7/14
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Note: This story
(plus all responses) is repeated from last week due to receipt of
a continuation from the original author.
The biggest mistake I have made was moving back to my hometown (not
realizing I would be living on the road my MIL took home from work
every day!!!) For the past 4 years, she and my FIL have stopped
by, mostly without calling first, whenever they feel like it.
Not stopping to think, "Maybe they're busy!" Which, after 4
years, I now resent her stopping by at all. I have made several
hints that I don't like it when people stop by without calling first.
I even told her that I told my own father to call first (which is
true), to no effect. Whenever there is a family function she
calls to see if I & my daughter will be attending. No problem,
but if I have plans, she has to ask why & my whereabouts.
Some nerve!!! Gee, no wonder I avoid her when I can. One
time, she was calling me to find out if we would be attending a family
function, and I did not feel like answering her nosy questions, so
I purposely screened my calls and took off every day at 5:00 (the
time she leaves work). So, she proceeded to call my husband
at work and tell him, "I've called a few times and stopped by 3 times
in the last couple of days and your wife wasn't home. Where
is she?" My husband then told her, "I don't know, Mom, she's
my wife, I'm not her keeper." Of course, I was elated!!
Does this sound like STALKING to anyone?? After that happened,
I cleaned out the garage and covered the windows with poster-board
so I could hide my van in there for a little privacy. It worked
for a while, she just thought I wasn't home. And when she called,
she casually mentioned about me not being home in a few days.
We don't dare mention our plans for an event, or weekend plans, because
she is constantly inviting herself and husband along. SHE NEEDS
TO GET A LIFE OF HER OWN!!!! She is sucking the life out of
me! HELP! I finally got enough nerve to tell her to call first
because she didn't get all the hints I dropped, and a couple of days
later she calls my husband at work telling him I hate her (crying).
Well duh, you pushed me to it!
7/6
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Doesn't
Get The Hint" in your response.
RESPONSE: doesn't get the hint ...
Sounds like you need to just sit down with your mom in law and talk
and tell her how you feel about this. Some people are too ignorant
to get hints. She sounds like she just wants to be included
in your lives, to me. You seem pretty selfish, not wanting to
share you and your husband's life with her. It is called being
mature and setting boundaries, which most of the women here don't
seem to know how to do.
7/7
RESPONSE: Re: Response to Doesn't Get the Hint (the 1st
Response)
Just where do you get the impression that this woman is selfish?
Did we read the same thing? For FOUR YEARS, MIL and FIL drop
by when they wish without calling, etc. My thoughts are that
DIL has dropped several hints that MIL is refusing to acknowledge,
or doesn't get. Just because someone is a part of your family
does not mean manners go out the door. Perhaps DIL is busy preparing
dinner at that time, reading to her children, running around naked
- it's her business, and she deserves the courtesy of a telephone
call to see if she can accommodate visitors. If someone did
that to you, I'll just bet you would think they were rude - not selfish.
You sound suspiciously like a MIL monitoring this site. I admit,
some of the messages and stories on this site do sound selfish, and
some of the DIL sound like spoiled brats that I cannot relate to,
but this woman sounds like someone who merely wants common courtesy,
and is probably busy like most of us DIL's with children.
7/8
RESPONSE: In response to "Doesn't Get the Hint"
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I disagree with the person who called you selfish for not wanting
to share your life all the time with your MIL. (I suspect that
maybe she's a MIL herself -- not that there's anything wrong with
that!). People have different comfort zones in regard to needing
privacy and needing people around them. It sounds like you need
some privacy. I feel for you, because I'm the same way -- luckily,
my MIL isn't THAT insensitive, and has been trying to give me my space.
I think the person who responded to you was right, though, about sitting
down and talking to her in an "adult" way -- maybe be really tactful
and gentle, too -- not angry, not confrontational -- just tell her
as kindly as you can what you need. You could even write it
in a letter. And be sure to tell her all the many good things
about herself -- tell her you DON'T hate her, that she's great, but
that you're just someone who needs privacy a lot of the time, and
that you've always been that way (well, if that's true -- I'm projecting
my own stuff onto you, sorry!) -- but that you're looking forward
to having a wonderful relationship with her for the rest of your lives
together, etc. But, be firm about the privacy thing; you do
have the right to set boundaries, and I don't think you're selfish.
On the contrary, I think you're being self-destructive if you totally
live as a martyr, ignoring your own comfort, and just living to please
others (like your MIL!). Good luck -- I feel for you.
7/8
RESPONSE: RE: Doesn't get the hint
I'm not going to be harsh, like the first response, responses like
that aren't constructive (telling people they're selfish and immature).
But, I do think that your husband and you should sit down and talk
with her about what's acceptable and unacceptable to you. You
haven't mentioned her saying anything mean about you. It DOES
sound like she may just want to get to know you and bond, or is lonely.
She may be nosy and intrusive without realizing it! If you BOTH
explain to her lovingly that it's nothing personal against her, but
that you want a call first to make sure it's ok for her to come over,
and also that there are certain boundaries that she shouldn't cross,
she might surprise you. She has a choice as to how she wants
to take that. She can take it that you "hate" her, or, she can
take it that you care about her but need your privacy (as all married
couples do). Encourage her to choose to take it the second way.
You also have a choice. You can take her coming over all the
time as she's trying to be annoying and intrusive, or you can take
it that she means well but just needs to be set straight. You
HAVE let things build up to an intolerable level, and you need to
take responsibility for that. (Putting poster board up on your
garage windows to hide your car, instead of just talking to her?!
Kind of extreme.) If she responds ok to you setting the boundaries,
then you are going to have to make an effort to forgive her, and let
go of your resentment about the past (resentment that you are partially
responsible for). Good luck!
7/8
RESPONSE: Response to "Doesn't get the Hint"
First of all, I would like to take this opportunity to say it is not
selfish to not want to spend every waking moment with your MIL.
It sounds like she has pretty big emotional needs, which are not your
responsibility to fulfill. Boundaries would be a really good
thing, and it seems a cup of tea with your MIL is in order.
Of course, I probably would not just spring it on her, but tell her
this is something which needs to be discussed. However, let
me warn you, sometimes doing this really doesn't matter, since she
may just disregard your rules anyhow. You and your family are
what is important here, not giving her everything she wants.
Good luck!
7/8
STORY CONTINUATION: I wrote last week - "Doesn't
get the hint".
Some advice was to have a talk with her. Well, you don't know
my MIL!!! I have been with her son for 8 years, married for
four, and we have had conversations and letters before about her SMOTHERING
me. She always ends up crying, no matter how nice I try to phrase
things. I am to the point where I don't want to ever see her
again. She doesn't seem to think anything is wrong. I'm
the bad person because I don't want her nosy butt in my business.
All I did was ask her to call before stopping by, politely.
I told her I like my privacy, and that it's not her fault, it's just
the way I am. She says "We'll try." I just think she is
a control freak. Her other 2 children moved out of town.
On purpose I think. Posterboard might seem extreme to other
people, but after having the talks before and her getting upset, after
awhile she just reverts back to her old ways. "You can't teach
an old dog new tricks!!!" She might leave me alone for a while
but it won't last long. She will want to patch things up and
then about 2 months down the road the same old thing will start happening
again. That is why I want her completely out of my life.
What is wrong with that? My husband and our child can go visit
her at his parents home. This is one example of how bold she
is: Her other daughter doesn't have birthday parties for her
child because her husband doesn't like them, which is his choice.
I asked my MIL if she would drop off the children's gifts for us,
since she was going over there anyway. She wanted us to drop
them off ourselves, since we were going by their home (on the way
home from a wedding). So I told her, that kind of defeats the
purpose of not having a party if we go over there. I think that
is bold of her to invite us to her daughters home knowing that her
SIL doesn't approve of birthday parties.) I knew she had room
in her car, she just wanted us to stop by and visit them.
7/14
RESPONSE: Re: Doesn't get the hint
Try living NEXT DOOR to your mil L
7/15
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My m.i.l. is a total and
complete b_-_-h! You fill in the blanks. She really wasn't
that bad when I dated her son for 5.5 years, but now that I'm married
to him, I can't stand her!!! I am due to have my first child
with my hubby in Oct. I have a daughter from a previous relationship
who is seven. Everyone on my hubby's father's side of the family
treats my daughter exceptionally well. His mother could care
less! She works 2nd shift 3-11, so we rarely even see her.
When we do, it's very uncomfortable. She smokes around my daughter,
who has asthma, which is a "huge" no no! She acts
like she likes my daughter in front of my hubby and I,, but I know
it's just a front. She pages my husband when she wants to talk
to him, and when I answer the phone if she calls the house ... which
is normally around 11 or 12 p.m. When she gets off of work,
she says about 2 words, then asks to speak to my husband.
She got married 1 month before we did, using the excuse that she didn't
want to show up at her son's wedding with her live-in boyfriend.
She didn't lift a finger, or ask if she could help with our wedding
whatsoever. She didn't even bring a camera to our wedding, she
just sat and complained about how hot it was ... she is on her 3rd
failed marriage. Her husband is in jail for raping someone.
My family is extremely close to my daughter. "Extremely".
I think she has the idea that she will take this new child under her
wing like my family has done with my daughter. Actually, I believe
it's a big front, because she really doesn't show anyone the time
of day. She always says she's going to do something, then "never"
follows through. I mean, almost "never". If
she's hardly ever around, why does it bug me sooo much when she is?
I think I know. It's the fact that she doesn't like me or my
daughter, but she tries to play the roll. My husband's father's
mother (his grandmother on his father's side) said my husband's mother
was always like that when she was married to my husband's dad.
She also is very ignorant, she's 52 and tries to act like she's our
age. Help!
Please help!
7/14
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "She
Plays the Roll" in your response.
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I have two things to say
right off the bat. Is there a factory somewhere that 'clones'
these women?? And, why is it a man cannot stand up to his mother?
Does he lose his manhood when marries a woman who is Not his mother?
Like others, I thought my MIL was okay, but that lasted until the
birth of my son. They were staying with my husband at our home,
while I was in the hospital. When I came home with my son, naturally,
my H and I were thrilled to be a family. She got her nose in
a snit and went home, crying all the way because she felt "left out".
2 days later, FIL calls to see if they can come again to see the baby,
and asked that I not hold him as much so that she could feel special
too!
My H was in the AF at the time, and soon after our daughter was born
he was shipped overseas to a base in Europe. I couldn't go with
him at the time, so I stayed behind with our children. That
situation played right into her hands. Since my daughter had
colic, I was running at both ends, with a baby that stayed awake all
night crying, and a toddler that ran non-stop during the day.
She would come and pester me into letting her take them off my hands
for a few "days" knowing that I was so exhausted I couldn't refuse.
The days would turn into weeks. She had them for over three
months, and every time I would call her to get them back she would
refuse, saying they needed her! When the day finally came for
me to fly overseas to be with H, she called him saying that she was
going to keep them while we were living there. (I was unaware
of this) When he told her "no", and to give them back
to me, she pouted and refused to bring them back, so I had to go with
my mother and get them 3 days before leaving the country.
We stayed in Europe for over 7 years. ( ahhh, sweet revenge!)
While over there, they adopted a baby girl, and as soon as we came
back home, all my kids heard was how special "she" was,
and blah, blah, blah. They told her my H was " HER **** ( insert
name)" and she would tell my daughter that he wasn't her daddy because
he belonged to "HER"!
Few years later, after getting out of the military, we moved back
to my home state, to a town that is 3 states and 300 miles from them.
My H lost the job he had, and after looking here at home for most
of a year, he put in for a job in the town where she lives.
He got one, and went to live with her for what was going to be a temporary
time, until he could find a job at home. Since we had just bought
our place here right before he lost his job, we were very reluctant
to sell it. Well, the "temporary time" has been going
on for almost 4 years, and I don't see any end in site. He won't
put in for any jobs at home, and refuses to let me sell the house.
Last year he got bitten by a brown recluse spider and had to have
emergency surgery for that. I was here at home, and nobody would
come get me so that I could be with him while he was in the hospital.
Later, he told me that his mother wanted it that way because she wanted
him to herself. He would tell me not to let her get to me, and
that I should be "happy" because he was being taken care of so well
by his MOTHER and the women he worked with. That hurt me more
than anything ever had before. I feel like 21 years of marriage
is going right down the drain because of her. He used to admit
that she was needy and grabby toward him, but that was when we were
living off from her.
Right now, I am waiting for him to send mail to me to see if he is
coming home this weekend ( he comes home every other weekend. It used
to be every weekend before she fussed.) I am sure he won't come,
because he complained his arm was hurting him and she wasn't letting
him drive. She even picked him up from work to show me and everybody
that he couldn't drive himself. I HATE that woman!!!
Sorry to run on, it's just so refreshing to know that I have company
with my misery and it feels so good to get this off my chest!
7/13
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My MIL sure has a lot
of nerve. Two weeks before our wedding, she tells my husband-to-be
that she wants to have one final dinner with him before he's a husband.
Sounds harmless, right? Well, when I came home, he said we needed
to talk. Turns out, this woman tried to persuade him to call
the wedding off, and was not going to be satisfied until he did.
The next day, she called him to see if he had yet, and when he said
"no", that he wasn't going to, she got angry and said, "You
two need to come over tonight. WE NEED TO TALK!" She has
had, not one, but, two failed marriages, and wants to act like SHE'S
the relationship guru, and expects us to follow closely her every
command. The really frustrating part is that my husband gets
intimidated when he's around her, so he doesn't entirely stick up
for me or himself!! I can't deal with this woman!
7/13
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I am convinced that my
mother in law suffers from Attention Deficit Syndrome. Whenever
she feels that no one cares about her, she would literally fall, and
later, bask in the attention and care from the concerned children.
She has done that up to five times, and boy is she good at emotional
blackmail. She would cry and rant and rave that her children
are all useless, can't even treat their own mum well (FYI, the children
provide her with a huge house, a chauffer and tons of cash!)
My father in law is immune to her, so she turns to us to play counselor
to her. And, all her four sons would wilt when she turns on
her tears. Sometimes, I just wish I could slap all of them and
wake them up!
7/13
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My mother in law remarried
nine years ago (her third marriage) and moved to the same small town
that my husband and I have lived in for 25 years. This woman
is so vicious. She has jumped from bed to bed for all the years
I've known her. She has had an abortion, and the family knows
some deep dark secrets that they don't talk about (I won't either,
because it would hurt innocent family members). She was well
known in the small town she lived in, and even in the city before
she moved here. She has been a big embarrassment to her family.
She will stalk any married man she can, and the women never seem to
know until its too late. When she moved to the town where we
live, she decided to attend church. I have been told from several
members of the congregation how she talks about us at her church group
meetings. She is very jealous, and I think that, since she put
on weight and lost her good looks to age, she cannot stand it.
Our daughter is a very pretty girl. She did highlight her hair
with blonde. MIL can't stand it. She calls her "miss
peroxide". Our daughter has been married for five years,
and has a good life, but MIL cannot stand it. She talks horrible
about the members of the church, and she always accuses the preacher
of stealing food after services. The sad thing is, she does
a good job of having two faces.
She baby-sits for some of the women of the church. If they only
knew what she was like, I don't think they would have her baby-sit.
Because of the things we know about her (fetishes) she should not
be babysitting, but our hands are tied on who we can talk to, because
she has ran us down to so many people of the church they would not
believe us. I just cringe when I hear she is babysitting.
We have not spoken to her for three years, and we used to live three
blocks from her. We recently moved out of town to get away from
her. She would stand in the alley with binoculars. (Neighbors
have even witnessed her doing that). She does some strange things.
She has five bird houses in the back yard, but only certain birds
can go in them, so she keeps a gun at the back door and shoots the
ones she doesn't like. She told us, when we were speaking, that
she would crush us with her old medication and bait the animals in
the neighborhood. And, I spoke to the woman that lives across
the street. She spent hundreds of $ on a vet bill because her
cat ate something. What do you do with a nut like that?
We choose to live our own life and stay away from her. It is
too bad she is using religion to go on a crusade against her family.
It is very hard. My husband and I are working and trying to
live a decent life, and we have MIL going door to door trying to destroy
us. My sister in law wrote a letter to the Minister of the church, but
their suggestion was they didn't think she was making contact with
that many people. They said to take a look at the ones she hangs
around. (misery loves company) Any suggestions????????
7/9
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Crusading
MIL" in your response.
RESPONSE: RE: Crusading Mother-in-law
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I'm also concerned
about the children, that this wacko is babysitting. Are you
sure there's no way you can say something, either to the people she's
babysitting for, or anonymously to the authorities? Please consider
it. You are an adult, and can choose to get away from her (or
try at least). These children don't have the power to make that
choice! And what about calling Animal Control in your area about
her abuse of animals?
7/10
RESPONSE: FROM Crusading Mother in law:
I did contact the animal control. They were going to keep an
eye out for sick animals in her area. I also contacted
most of her neighbors to make them aware. For the children she
baby-sits for, they are her "friends". They would not listen
to me, however, I did talk to the father of one of the kids (he is
a cop) and told him she should not be trusted. He said they
were only going to have her baby-sit one more month, and that was
it. That was last year, and she is still babysitting from time
to time with him. I heard she has shown some true colors with
some of the people from the church. She had some sort of going
away party at her house, and she spilled some coffee on the floor.
From what was told to me, she blacked out, and several people got
the chance to see the real person. When my father was dying
of cancer, we were told to purchase some essiac tea from the health
food store. It was suppose to boost your energy and help with
the appetite. We were desperate when he started failing so bad.
We bought the tea. MIL heard of this, and at one of her so called
church group meetings she told everyone I was practicing witchcraft.
It was a church member that told us what she was saying.
I explained why she had said that and the woman laughed. This
woman had her fill, and does not attend that church. When my
son was little, he had a very bad case of pneumonia. We took
him to the hospital, which was 60 miles from our town. (the
city in which MIL used to live) The doctor gave him some medication,
and sent us home. We stopped at MIL's before the trip home.
She walked over by him and lit up a cigarette. I said he can't
be around any smoke. She said, "I'll blow my smoke in the kitchen".
I looked at my husband and said lets go. It has been like that time
and time again. I have 25 years of stories. She is very
pitiful. All of her kids have caught her in bed with someone,
she was never discrete. Now, her sons look down on her, and
she blames the goody goody daughter in laws for the way her sons feel
about her. Its not my fault what my husband has seen.
I don't want to come across mad at the church. I pray,
too, but not for bad things. They just don't realize what
she is like, and I don't think they think she is as bad as I say.
I really don't think she is standing up and giving her testimony about
all the things she has done. I think my MIL has had a
very degrading life, and there is allot of jealousy. She couldn't
keep a marriage together and she doesn't want to get along with
her sons families. I wish she would seek some help. If
anyone has any advise for me, I will gladly take it. I have
been torn apart by this woman and need the help. I didn't mention
I was turned in to the crisis center for spouse abuse, she thinks
I am too controlling. We were never contacted, though we do
know most of the people in the office that she sent the letter to.
Her own sister told me that when she moved to the town we live her
words were "We'll see how long that marriage will last. She
has put her house on the market, and they bought a camper and pickup
- we are hoping they will leave. HELP!!!
7/13
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using our
mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Turned
In To Crisis Center" in your response.
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 Our son recently had his 2 year birthday party. My MIL,
once again, managed to make it a very uncomfortable day for my H and
I. After we opened the presents, we started opening and assembling
them. I started by giving the hardest one to my sister's husband,
and the easiest one to my 9 year-old niece. At this point, my
MIL jumped up in a huff and started opening one of the boxes she had
brought. It was a teeter-totter that did not need assembling.
The other present was a ball pit that needed an air compressor to
blow up. She waited until her other grandson and his parents
showed up (over an hour after they had said they would be there, and
2 hrs and 50 mins. after the party started) when he asked, she told
him he would have to ask me. I told him he would have to ask
my H (he is the only one that could run the air compressor)
She believes I just didn't want it opened.
Our son also got may Little People play sets that we set up in the
family room. The party was outside, but the other grandson kept
trying to come in and play with the play sets. I told him "no,"
we would do it later when our son could play with them. He asked
why we had to wait, and I told him because they were our son's presents,
and he should get to play with them first. (our son always shares
all his toys with visitors). Once again, my MIL had a fit.
Each time that the other grandson would ask about the play sets, my
MIL would say very sarcastically, "You know Aunt_____ said no".
The mother and father never say anything to help or correct the situation.
Also, when our son sent to open his presents from the other grandson
and his parents, the other grandson ripped them out of our son's hands
and opened them! No one on my H's family said a word!!!!!!
7/12
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My husband & I have
been married 7 years, and my MIL has not changed one bit. Well,
maybe, but for the worse. I, however, have the most wonderful
husband who stands up to her and puts me first. I do encourage
him to call her, and have NEVER kept him from doing anything with
his family.
MIL, on the other hand, makes him feel guilty if he does not see her
regularly. She calls me and asks him to come over! What
am I? Chopped Liver?
The last phone conversation my husband had her on speaker phone so
I heard everything. (She did not know it) Well, she proceeded
to tell him that his oldest brother, whom he does not speak to, had
been calling us and leaving messages but was not getting a return
call. "He thinks your wife is erasing the messages." I
flipped out, but didn't say anything at the time. I would never
erase messages from any of his family members! I would expect
the same from my husband. He believes me, and said she was making
it up, as he knows his brother has not ever called us.
She also offers our house to out of state relatives to stay with us,
"because you are the only ones that don't have children, so you have
the room." She does this without even asking. She did
this for my BIL's recent wedding. 4 people were invited to stay
with us, family, 2 of whom I have never met! Distant cousins
that are much older than my husband. Well, they arrived well
after 1am the day of the rehearsal dinner. Needless to say,
we were exhausted. I owned my own business at the time, so I
came home early to get some rest. I was the only one home, and
it was a beautiful Nov. day, so the house was open. Now, we
have a fence in our backyard on both sides. I was just about
asleep on the sofa when I hear, "Is anyone home?" My MIL walked
around the side of the house w/ her sister, whom I had not seen in
8 years, thru the fence, and into our pool area, ready to walk into
the house. She never even rang the doorbell! She also
left her 90 year old mother in the car. "Well", she said to
me, "I just want to show Aunt M your house. She's never seen
it." I was furious, however, I was not going to make a scene
in front of my husband's aunt. As graciously as I could, I showed
her around the house.
When my husband got home he was just as furious. (She never
calls before coming over.) He got right on the phone to find
she was not home, but read his father the riot act. Later, at
the rehearsal dinner, my FIL says to me, "Well, she's just so proud
of her son." (Again, what about me? I help to pay for
the house!) "You just have to excuse her," he continues.
Again, not wanting to make a scene, I just replied, "That's fine,
however, we deserve the courtesy of a phone call. We don't come
to your house and barge in or not call before. We would like
the same. I don't appreciate it."
I could go on, but I will save some for later!
7/12
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Working Women Don't Have Wives