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Mother-In-Law Stories
Archives 10/14/00
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My MIL will try to say
anything she can to make my H's and my marriage and/or love seem trifle.
If I tell her about the beautiful potting bench my H made me (well,
OK, I might have been bragging - it was a beautiful job), she'll say
something like, "Well, he's ALWAYS loved working with wood when he's
bored." My MIL seems to be in LOVE with her son, as sick
as it sounds. She absolutely hangs on him and gazes at him like
a lovesick puppy. Once, we went on vacation and we were going
to go out to breakfast. Well, my husband went out to iron his
pants when I was showering, and after we left the house, his M said,
"You know, DH was standing in the kitchen with his boxers on ironing
when I was out in the living room." GROSS!!! She
almost sounded lustful. Yes, my husband is an absolute knockout,
but you don't want to get me started on my MIL's sisters, as well.
They're always saying to DH, "Can you lift my purse up for me".
They're all sick, as far as I see it. My husband says they are
probably just jealous because, see, he was raised solely by his mom
and her four sisters were always around. Whatever! I love
my nephews too, but I don't plop my big butt down on their crotch
areas to say "Hello". I've asked (numerous) girlfriends for
advice, and they've all said, "It's so weird, they must really be
in love with him". How do you think I should answer them when
they ALWAYS tell me how LUCKY I am that he loves me, etc. Let
me tell you, not to be conceited, but I'm considered very pretty myself.
P.S. My family treats him like gold.
10/5
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "MIL
In Love With DH" in your response.
RESPONSE: In reference to "MIL in love with DH"
I don't have any advise for you. If I did I'd use it myself.
I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone on the strange affection
giving and attention craving of the MIL to your husband. My
mother-in-law acts that way too. My husband's sister is even
worse. She likes to run through the house in a towel and makes
sure that he notices. They actually used to kiss him on the
lips. I told him in front of them that if he wanted to kiss
me he'd better stop letting ppl kiss him on the lips, because I had
no desire to kiss where their lips had been. They said all French
do it. I told them that they aren't French. They never
did it again. They all annoy him. They make me really
uncomfortable and mad. It's too weird and freakish to say anything
to them. They would turn it around to me being sick and jealous
of them. The hugs with the chest rub freak me out too.
My SIL even told me that my husband has a cute butt. They all
talk about how good he looks in a uniform and how my SIL needs a man
in uniform. I'm sorry that I don't have any advise for you,
but I wanted to tell you I know the frustration you are going through.
I felt like I had the only MIL and SIL in love with and obsessed with
my husband until I read your story. They always try to push
me out of events and push themselves in. My husband says they
are jealous of me because I am nice and pretty. They are very
unattractive women. They like to act like they come first in
my husband's life. My husband is very clear that his world revolves
around me, but they still insist to me and others that they are his
priority. They have no limits when it comes to trying to get
his attention. I've thought about leaving because I can't take
all the ignorance, but it's not his fault and I love him so much.
He tries to help me but it's still hard for me. He even pushes
them away and tells them to get away from him, but they don't get
it. It's as if they think they are in competition with me.
Sounds sick, I know. I hope someone can give you and me both
advise. Thanks for letting me vent.
10/7
RESPONSE: Response to "MIL in love with DH"
I know what you mean. I don't have a SIL who is like that, but
a MIL. She used to run her fingers through his hair, cooing
about how gorgeous he is. She would also run her fingers over
his whiskers, and say, "Ooh, somebody needs to shave!"
She used to make googly-eyes at him. Once, when he and I were
holding hands, she came up to us, separated our hands, and coldly
said, "No public displays of affection. Got it?" And, you know
what he did? He grabbed my hand back, kissed me full on the
lips, turned around and looked at her, and said, "Too bad!"
Boy was she furious.
She is so jealous of me it's pathetic. Why? Because my
DH hovers over me whenever we're around her. He's a physically
affectionate person anyways, but he really lays it on thick when we're
around her. He holds my hand, touches my hair or arm, and says
to everyone, "Just look at my beautiful wife. Aren't I a lucky
guy?" Most of the family thinks it's cute because we're newlyweds.
I must say, she does not. She sits and squirms with discomfort.
She watches us, seething. But, her creepy little displays of
affection have stopped. After all, how can she - a 60+ year
old woman who is his mother - compare to me - a young woman who DH
finds extremely attractive, and who is his WIFE? She will always
have a place in his heart as his mother, but ... Earth to MIL - your
son is not your husband!
Have your DH try showing you lots of physical affection around your
MIL and SIL. I hope it will work for you too. A word of
warning, however: doing this will probably make them even more
hostile towards you. Luckily, I'm past the point of caring what
my MIL thinks of me. You also need to have a DH who is extremely
supportive, and who is uncomfortable with their inappropriate touches.
Good luck!
10/7
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This story is about my
SIL. When I was in graduate school I had very little money.
My father had passed away, and I was the youngest and was working
and putting myself through school without much help, as mom didn't
have much to spare at that point.
My brother and SIL lived about 2 hrs from me, and I asked him if he
would come to my apartment one day and help with a few chores that
I could not physically handle myself (and did not know how to do myself
either). He came over willingly and seemed glad to help.
The list wasn't that long, believe me. I really couldn't afford
to hire someone to do the work and had no one else to ask. I
did make dinner for them and then we went out for ice cream.
I also thanked them profusely as I really was very grateful.
While my brother was in another room my dear SIL told me not plan
to make a habit of this "asking favors thing". She said that
there is plenty to do at their house, and they wouldn't be coming
back soon to take care of my needs. She also said that I should
learn to do things for myself. Wasn't that just so sweet of
her? I was stunned. I thought we had a good relationship
until that point, and I didn't think I was asking anything too extraordinary.
I was very timid at that point in my life, so I didn't let her have
it. Today, she would have gotten an earful at least.
10/6
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Ain't
She Sweet" in your response.
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I never forget a face,
But in my mils' case I'm willing to make an exception.
I have never made a fool of my mil,
I just leave her to display her natural talents herself.
My mil and I were happy for 20 years,
Then we met each other.
Last night the local peeping Tom knocked on my mils' door, and asked
her to shut her blinds.
Marriage Anon is a club for bachelors.
If any is tempted to marry, they send my mil over in curlers and dressing
gown.
10/6
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5My husband and I live
in the US, but he is originally from a country in Europe. When
his father passed away, he left him some money, and since then his
mother has been taking care of that money in the stock market.
The accounts are both in his and his mother's name, so each time he
needs money, he will have to call up his mother to send him the money.
It just bothers me that even though he got married, his mother controls
him in that way, as his wife does not exist. He was never very
honest about how much money he does exactly have in the stock market,
but he keeps telling me that it is money his father left him, and
he wants it to grow so that we could do something substantial with
it. What bothers me really is that I must be viewed by his mother
as someone who is an outsider, who is probably after her son's money,
and therefore he needs a protector like her. I will appreciate
your response and advice. Many thanks.
10/3
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Apron
Strings are Purse Strings" in your response.
RESPONSE: This is in response to "Apron strings are Purse
Strings".
I can relate to you. It's reverse, however. I am from
a European country and DH and family are from the US. My first
husband (I stayed in the US after the divorce) didn't make me, but
his mother, the beneficiary of his life insurance policy ... his family
constantly threatened to take our son away from me. Well, I
got away from them and they didn't get my son, because some laws apply
to humans even though they were not born on this continent.
I also acquired US citizenship some 10 years ago. My second
husband's family has a hard time acknowledging the fact that I am
a citizen, and they show a lot of anxiety when it comes to money.
For example: When we got married 6 years ago FIL gave me an envelope
containing a check (I didn't know it at that time, but it was their
wedding present to us). MIL absolutely freaked out and screamed
my husband's name very loudly. She went berserk, jumping up
and down, red in the face. I can't help but feel that they think
that I am a gold-digger ... but guess what? Who's car was paid
for? MINE. Did it all by myself. MY car is the FIRST
car that my DH ever drove that is paid for. Another thing is
that since DH is with me he has his finances under control and he
graduated from college ... The in-laws are completely out of
touch with reality. Tell your DH to invest HIS money here in
the US. Wouldn't it be better anyhow? Wouldn't he get
more for his buck?
10/5
RESPONSE: Re: Apron are Purse Strings.
You may not like my response, or maybe you already suspect this, but
in my opinion your MIL is not to blame here. At least, not based
on what you've written. The blames rests squarely on your husband.
It seems that your MIL is taking dh's lead. HE's leaving the
money in the account under his mother's control. HE has not
been honest with you about his finances (as you've implied) - it's
not her responsibility to turn his assets over to you - it's his responsibility.
There may be other reasons to feel your MIL thinks you're after his
money, or thinks badly of you, but unless your husband has demanded
that she turn control of his stocks over and she has refused, then
this is not one of them. Sorry.
10/6
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I have an actual, physical
stress headache because that EVIL woman, sent to me from hell, is
driving me crazy. I just need to get these thoughts off my chest.
She is a nosy, manipulative loser with no life who makes her children's
lives her business. If I never spoke to her ever again I would
die a happy girl. I dread for the day I find out I'm pregnant
so she can tell me how wrong I do everything. She is constantly
telling me that no one knows her son the way SHE does. "Well
Lady, NEWS FLASH, if you knew your son so well you would know that
he thinks your a raving lunatic b***h! He just doesn't tell
you because fighting with you is worthless because you're stupid and
unreasonable."
Even if we are talking about the smallest most insignificant thing,
she has to have the best, biggest and better story than everyone in
the room. She is constantly "one-upping" people with her stories
that, by the way, aren't true! She's an habitual liar!
She's never wrong, about ANYTHING. I've never heard her say
she's sorry. Even when she called my FH a "Piss poor excuse
for a son." I don't know how long I'm going to last before I
tell my FH that I just want nothing to do with her.
Thank you to everyone on this website! I'm not alone, and reading
the advice that everyone writes to each other has helped. Everyone
hang in there!!
10/5
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How do you handle a mil
who is controlling? My mil thinks that my 8 year old daughter
is her "child." She constantly has to have the last word, and
says she can do everything better than me. Yet, she wants to
copy off me for recipes. How do you handle this kind of person
except for ignoring her?
10/4
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Since my mother passed
away several years ago, her sister "stood in" for her during the birth
of my first child. That was her intention during my second child's
birth also, but my MIL decided SHE should be in the room during this
one. I cannot stand to be in a room with this woman more than
5 minutes anyway, and I sure didn't want her telling me what I was
doing wrong during delivery (yes, she is one of THOSE types).
I told my husband that I didn't want anyone in the room other than
us, just so she would stay away, although I would have liked to have
had my aunt with me. The nurses asked everyone except my husband
to leave. My MIL thought I told the nurses she was "crazy".
They formed this opinion for themselves from her behavior while in
the room and afterwards. After everyone left the room his mother
ran OUT OF THE HOSPITAL and HID while I gave birth. Afterward,
my husband spent 30 minutes searching for his mother while I bonded
with our son. The nurses kept wanting to take the baby to the
nursery, but I kept saying, "Could you please wait a few minutes?"
They finally had to take him because he was getting cold. I
will always be upset with her for basically ruining the birth of our
son for both of us.
10/4
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My H and I have been married
for 2yrs. We are expecting our 1st child in a few months.
My MIL has been a pain in my rump ever since I met her. There
are so many things, I don't know where to begin. When my MIL
found out I was planning on nursing our child she called and gave
me an ear full - telling me how me nursing the child is selfish and
will make it impossible for her or my H to bond with the child.
My H and I just bought a house. My MIL and FIL called our realtor
and asked him to get an appointment for them to go and look at the
house (this was before we even put a contract on it) because there
was no way we would be able to make the right decision. After
we had moved in, my MIL had asked for a set of keys for an emergency.
My H agreed to give them a set. We found out later that week,
when she came over, that she had made 6 copies of our house keys for
my BIL and a few other people. She chose to do this without
asking either of us. There are so many more stories I could
share, but I will wrap it up with this one: If someone is getting
on her nerves, she will insult them by saying, "you are just like
my DIL!" My H supports me and stands up to her, for which
I am very thankful. Thanks for letting me vent - I love this
web site. It is on my favorites. Please feel free to respond.
10/2
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Just
Like My DIL" in your response.
RESPONSE: This is a response to "Just like my DIL"
I know this sounds easier said than done, but you have to change the
locks of YOUR house to keep the MIL out. Don't give them any
keys. Please don't let your MIL talk you out of breastfeeding
your baby. I have nursed my two and wouldn't trade the experience
for anything in this world. Breastfeeding has very many benefits
for baby and mom. Try to get support through an organization
in your area. Learn everything that you can about this
topic before your baby arrives. The Academy of Pediatrics has
a website, they have excellent info on this topic. Good
luck.
10/3
RESPONSE: Re: "Just Like My DIL" -
Well, if your DH supports you, I'd get the house re-keyed quickly.
It's not a good idea to have lots of copies of your house keys floating
around. And it's NOT a good idea that your MIL thought nothing
of copying them without asking you. If they know that you know
they have the keys, and don't say anything to them, they may think
it's OK with you if they use the keys. They may think it's OK
with you if they snoop. They'll find out otherwise if you change
all the locks, and they DON'T get a key, but it would be the most
polite thing to have DH warn them that the keys are being changed
for "safety reasons". How polite do you want to be?
I would have a fit if extended family had copies of my keys, but I'd
probably just have DH tell them we "changed locks" and leave
it at that.
10/3
RESPONSE: Ref: Just Like My DIL
I think that you should change all your home's exterior locks as soon
as possible, and give a spare to a friend who is not a next door neighbor
- definitely someone the in-laws don't know.
10/3
RESPONSE: This is in response to "Just Like My DIL".
First of all, breastfeeding is definitely not selfish! I nursed
my first child for fifteen months and it is the most selfless act
because your body is not truly your own. You are nursing a child
around the clock, plus you are always aware of what what type of food
you are eating. It is extremely rewarding for mother and child,
but it certainly takes a dedicated person. Apparently MIL doesn't
realize this. I hope you won't let such a naive remark discourage
you. Second, get your locks changed or your in-laws will be
walking in at the worst times -- like when baby is napping.
10/5
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I need your advice/input
on how I should deal with the situation I am about to be put into
with my MIL. My MIL chooses to not speak to me, and so therefore,
we do not have a relationship anymore. I have struggled with
this, but have come to the conclusion that she would have treated
anyone that married her son this way. Anyway, my grandfather
recently passed away. When my Aunt passed away, my MIL attended
the funeral and acted like she was soooo close to me. The sight
of her made me ill and I did not feel that this was the time to entertain
her. She always puts out this facade that she adores me when
there are lots of family members around. My dilemma is that
I do NOT want her to attend my Grandpa's funeral. She met him
once or twice. I do not feel she needs to go. It will
just make me feel uncomfortable, and it is not necessary that she
go. My FIL (the one that she communicates to her son through)
has already asked when the funeral is. What should I do?
Should I say that I realize she is NOT going to support me, but to
save face, and that I don't want her to be there? Anyone else
been a situation with a manipulative MIL with her own agenda?
Let me know.
10/1
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "MIL
with Own Agenda" in your response.
RESPONSE: In response to MIL with Own Agenda --
I feel for you. This may not be particularly good advice; someone
else may have better ideas, but could your husband tell your FIL that
the funeral will be private? Sometimes people have small, private
funerals. Otherwise, if you can't keep her from coming, at least
there will be other people who really do wish you well and support
you -- you'll be surrounded by people; just avoid her as much as you
can. My own father recently passed away -- and, while most people
were great, there were definitely those I wished I'd been able to
keep from coming -- a cousin with her own agenda, who decided to turn
the funeral into a photo op, and went around asking people to pose
with each other (how my dad would have hated that!). A lot of
it seemed about her ego. My MIL, whom I was dreading having
there, didn't cause any problems and I didn't spend much time at all
with her -- there were so many other people as "buffers." You
have my sympathy, and also, condolences for your loss.
10/2
RESPONSE: RESPONSE TO MIL WITH OWN AGENDA.
I have been putting up with an evil b*tch of a MIL for 7 years, and
my advice to you may be a bit harsh, but . . . I would simply tell
the FIL that you don't like the way MIL treats you, you don't like
her, she is not a member of YOUR family and quite honestly, you don't
want that b*tch at your grandfather's funeral.
10/4
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I saw an entry on the
message board that mentions the line "have an mil free day,"
so I decided to go with that thought, and this is what I have come
up with:
The TEN Best Things About An MIL Free Day:
10: You would only play games with children.
9: The only hot air in your house would come from your clothes dryer.
8: Airbags would only be found in automobiles.
7: Controllers would only be found in the corporate world.
6: The word B*tch would be used soley to describe a female dog.
5: We would only encounter witches on Halloween.
4: Horror stories would be purely works of fiction.
3: You'd only be looked down on by someone taller than you.
2: Interference would only take place on the football field.
And the most important reason of all...
1: You would be the ONLY woman in your dear husband's life.
10/3
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Note: This story
(plus entire thread) moved here from 9/23/00 archive due to recent
receipt of a response.
Both my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law, who both live abroad,
called this morning to wish my husband "happy birthday",
and kept him on the phone for quite a long time, and never bothered
to ask him to have me talk to them over the phone. They did
this before and I tolerated it, but today I couldn't. I told
my husband that this is quite rude of them, and it means they do not
acknowledge me as his wife. We have been married for a year
now, and we don't have children. I cannot stand his mother,
whom I met twice for the total of a month and a half. This time,
I let him go and visit her alone for twelve days, and I am sure she
has tried to manipulate him again against me. I bought her a
very nice hand-made carpet and sent it to her as a gift with him,
and she never bothered to call and thank me in person. My husband
keeps telling me she loves the carpet, but she never bothered to thank
me or ask why I did not come with my husband to visit. I will
really appreciate your response about this. Do you think it
was a bad idea to let him go and visit her by himself in the first
place? I did it because each time I am with her and my husband,
she keeps giving me bad looks, and acting like she cannot stand my
presence. She is very possessive of her son, and cries all the
time whenever I am around, and I could not stand such childish behavior.
My husband at least agreed this morning that it was rude of them not
to ask to talk to me over the phone. Please tell me what to
do with these people. Ignore them, or be diplomatic or kill
them with kindness. I am very happy with my husband, but I am
pretty sure his family will ultimately get between us. Even
his nephew (preteen) called this morning, and the first thing he did
was to ask for his uncle, and he did not bother to say "how are you?"
to me. Thank you for your advice.
9/18
***NOTE: Please feel free to respond to this (using
our mother-in-law stories submission page) if you
have any advice to share. Reference this story as "Should
I Kill Them With Kindness? (or some other way?)" in your response.
RESPONSE: "should I kill them with kindness?"
Why on earth would you want to talk to people who are rude to you
to begin with? I say thank your lucky stars you don't have to
deal with them. My in-laws did that to me constantly, and at
first, I was offended, but now, who cares??? If they want to
be rude and ignore you, then it's their loss.
9/19
RESPONSE: In response to "Should I Kill them with Kindness?"
This response may sound a little harsh, but I really don't see where
you have a problem other than you don't think they are paying you
enough attention to please you. When they call to talk to your
husband on his birthday, I can understand that the purpose of the
call is to talk to him and not you. Your dh's nephew may be
uncomfortable talking to you, and if he doesn't ask how you are, so
what? Although I think it rude that they did not thank you for
the gift. My advice would be to count your blessings that you
deal with them very little, and be diplomatic when you talk to them
on the phone. However, you have made it very clear you detest
your mil, but you have only seen her twice. Since it seems you
don't make an effort, why should your mil?
9/19
RESPONSE: Response to "should I kill them with kindness?"
Your problems are so different from mine. I try to avoid my
MIL -- when she calls, I try to make sure my DH answers the phone,
always! I always try to avoid visits with her. It sounds
like you'd really like to talk to your MIL on the phone -- would you?
She's lucky! I avoid mine like the plague! Do I just not
understand, or do you think it might make her (and you) feel good
if, when she calls, your husband would say to her, "_____ would love
to talk with you!" Instead of sulkily waiting for her to ask
to talk to you, couldn't you ask to talk to her? (Make things
happen?!)
It seems like a real ticket to unhappiness, expecting people to jump
through hoops -- like thinking they SHOULD ask to talk with you.
They might be from a culture where not asking to talk with you is
NOT considered rude. (In my book, that's not rude -- it's news
to me that it's rude! Maybe I better start doing it, myself!)
It seems like the feelings and intentions you and your MIL have toward
each other are more important than whether you jump through each other's
hoops (do you know what I mean?). I know one thing that makes
me really uncomfortable about my own MIL is the fact that she thinks
she knows what everyone else SHOULD do (send presents, go to certain
events, saying certain things, etc.), that they're not doing.
We sure don't want to be that way ourselves!
9/19
RESPONSE: Response to Kill 'em with kindness ...
Don't even bother being nice anymore. You've tried, that's all
that matters. Obviously, YOU are the bigger person here.
I would advise you to completely forget about them. They simply
do not exist. If they can't respect you as a person, as well
as their son's wife, forget about them (and THAT is putting it mildly!!)
I have tried everything with my MIL and SIL. They are just a
couple of rotten apples in the barrel, and only they can change themselves.
Some people are just like that. Forget about them!! You
have so many other things and people to focus your energy on!!
Trust me, it works. At least it has for me!!
10/2
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I know that this is the
MIL Story website, but I hope that you don't mind if I share a story
about my FIL. I was on the phone with FIL to make the arrangements
for MIL and FIL to stop for dinner at our house while they were in
transition to SIL house. We live right in the middle.
My son was only a few months old at the time, and we experienced "witching
hour" with him daily. I know that a fussy baby during dinnertime
is a BIG problem for many families. Because of the baby's fussiness
I suggested that we keep dinner very simple and we'd just throw some
burgers on the grill. I couldn't believe when my FIL started
to "order" the fixings that he wanted. I guess he
was afraid that he wouldn't get his slice of tomato and his onion,
etc., like I wouldn't have any ready ... he must have mistaken me
for "BK" where you can "have it your way?"
10/1
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Oh, what a godsend this
website is. There's so many stories, where do I start ... I
never talk to my MIL (thank goodness for call display), yet, I let
her get into my head and it drives me insane. Just last year,
my husband gave me a beautiful diamond tennis bracelet at his parent's
place (they live 1.5 hrs. away - couldn't it be further?). I
was totally surprised with the gift. My MIL takes the bracelet
and scrutinizes it as well as counts the diamonds - she also made
a comment to me, "my son is extremely generous - just like his father."
I thought, what was that? So, I come back with, "I could have
bought this myself." Don't get me wrong, I totally appreciate
the gift, but don't give me a superiority statement to put yourself
on top of me. Next, I had to leave by myself to prepare for
my friend's wedding. When the door closed behind me, that b-tch
says to my husband, "she's out to get you," because of the comment
I made. At the time, we were married 1.5 yrs., and together
for 5 yrs. I just can't believe the nerve of that witch.
I know she is a piece of wasted skin, but I can't seem to get her
out of my head - even with counseling. The sad thing is, I am
letting her win. Please give me suggestions on how I can stop
wasting my brain space with that witch in my head.
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When my husband and I
went shopping for my engagement ring, I knew he didn't have a lot
of money, and picked out a plain but beautiful heart shaped ring with
a small diamond. He was reluctant, so I said jokingly, "when
we're married for 10 years, then I'll demand an upgrade."
When we showed the ring to his mother, she was all like, "oh, that's
pretty". When my husband left the room, my future MIL said to
me, "Why didn't you get a real engagement ring? You knew he
had the money in his pocket to get something worthwhile!"
I was shocked! This was, after all, HIS mother. I told
her that I wasn't marrying him for the size of the ring he buys or
the amount of money in his pocket, I love him! Besides, I knew
he had his car insurance payment due, and a loan payment due.
Then, she scolded her own son! He was beside himself!
He even asked me if he could return the ring and get something "more
fitting" for the occasion. I told him if he returned MY ring,
the wedding was off. I love that ring dearly! And, even
though we bought a complete wedding set, with a new engagement ring,
I still wear that heart ring with pride!
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I had an induced labor
& delivery for my first child, (due to toxemia) which in and of
itself was scary. My husband and I called all our families to
let them know I would be having our child that day, no matter what!
Well, my SIL "G" came with her 11 month old son, which was fine.
I was a little nervous (to say the least) but I felt I was handling
things well. All "G" could keep saying was, "Doesn't it
hurt? I remember giving birth to this kid last year! I'll
never do it again! It hurts so much! Just wait and see!"
This was really what I did not want to hear. But, I was being
polite and said nothing. Later on, the other two SIL ("Ti" and
"Te") came to visit. Now, here I am, on the delivery table,
being given drugs to induce my labor. What does my loving SIL
"Te" do? Tell me about how her boyfriend is cheating on her.
When she noticed I wasn't paying attention, she kept hitting my arm,
"Hey, are you listening to anything I said?" I just looked at
my husband and mouthed to him, "Get them the f**k out of here."
He did, thank GOD!
I think the most exciting part was when one of the nurses gave me
a flavored ice pop after hearing I hadn't eaten anything all day.
For whatever reason, I got very sick and vomited. If that wasn't
embarrassing enough, my SIL, "Te" who has never had a child in her
life, grabs my doctor, who is on the phone with her office, and yells
at her to help me. I tried explaining that it was the nurse's
job, but she kept at my doctor. Then, my doctor comes in and
says to me, "If she comes at me like that again, I'll kick her ass,"
Meanwhile, my doctor is 6 months pregnant, and shorter than my SIL.
I apologized to my doctor, but she said she didn't hold it against
me, seeing that they were my hubby's family, and technically not mine.
At one point, seeing that my labor was going so slow, my doctor went
in and broke my water. This took a lot out of me! I asked
my husband not to let anyone in the room, because I didn't want anyone
to see me like that. At that point, my father wanted to enter
the room. My husband kindly explained to my father what was
going on, but my father threw a fit and called my husband every name
in the book. (He later denied doing this, but I heard everything,
since I was right by the door). Then, good old MIL came.
At that point, I had been in labor for about 10 hours, without much
progress. The doctor and nurses were trying to talk me into
taking an epidural. After my research, and knowing the problems
my mother had with it, I refused. My MIL came over and tried
telling me why it would be in everyone's interest for me to take this.
I said that I was happy for everyone, but it was really my decision.
She just wouldn't shut up about it. Finally, I got a good contraction,
and she just kept running her mouth, and I said to her, "If you don't
leave me the f**k alone, I'm going to kick your ass. Get the
f**k out of here and mind your business!" She got a little upset
and walked out of the room. I felt bad, and apologized, but
told her that I don't take kindly to people telling me what to do,
ESPECIALLY while giving birth! She was fine with that, and being
that it was late, she went home. I finally (after 11 hours)
gave birth to our first born son!
Luckily, when our daughter was born three years later, it went too
quickly for anyone to be notified until after the fact ;}
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Working Women Don't Have Wives